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Relationships should have no blame. Analyzing others will lead to excuses, and those excuses need to stop. The first step? Acceptance.
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- When you make excuses, you’re more prone to the failure
- Relationships should have no blame
- Blame will keep you stuck
What’s shakin’, hey, I’m Rick Jordan. And Today we’re going all in 99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses. Now, who did I trigger by saying that, as you’re thinking about it, it’s like, oh, my gosh, but this just happened? That just happened, right? I know that I know some of you just got triggered by that. Because you’re thinking like, what about things I can’t control, we’re going to talk about those. Today, we’re going to talk about a bunch of other things, too, I recently came in contact with a bunch of people who seemingly have this concept that nothing is their fault. Right. And the thing is, is that you’ve got to grasp in order to be successful in order to move forward in order to continue pressing on in order to repair a relationship, in order to grow a relationship, you have to accept that fault or blame is nowhere in the picture.
That’s the mindset you have to adopt in order to do anything worthwhile in life. Because 99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses. Those excuses look like those things like but it was that person’s fault. placing blame is an excuse. And get this even placing blame on yourself is an excuse because that’s when you get into this victim mode, where you’re like, oh, but you know, I just don’t have the ability to, or this happened to me, or you know, what, I just was in the wrong place at the wrong time. There’s I, that’s a bunch of BS, that’s victim, it’s horrible. In order to move forward to grow, you have to stop making excuses and start practicing acceptance. That’s the bottom line. What does that look like? Acceptance is just starting where you’re at right now. And this is where things get actually a little easier. Because you know, it takes a lot of energy, a lot of energy, a lot of wasted time to make excuses, because then you’re analyzing everybody else’s crap, who you think may have wronged you, or came into your life and did something to you who hurt you, they may have hurt you, but you’re analyzing their crap.
Rather than broadening out, zooming out. And looking as far as how you can move forward, acceptance is all about moving forward. Making excuses is in the past, you’re keeping yourself stuck, and they’re anchored in things that can no longer be changed. That’s when making excuses is making excuses, living in things that can no longer be changed. Acceptance is doing something now in the presence. And that could that might not even be active, you know that I talk about action. If you’ve been listening for a while, I’m always talking about taking action. But that action just to start practicing, accept practicing acceptance could just be reflecting on what you can do. Maybe it’s blocking out an hour if it’s your business blocking out an hour in an afternoon because you got a bunch of junk going on. And just freeing that time for some headspace for you to just contemplate what some solutions could be what some right questions could be, to move forward to get out of that rut that you’re in presently, rather than living in the past as far as what causes and everything. Now you can learn from all that.
But if you wallow in that, that’s where you get stuck in this making excuses practicing acceptance is about moving forward. So when you get into this mode where something’s happening, stop looking around you for people to blame. Stop looking inward to place blame. If you’re in a bad relationship right now. Blame is going to be your downfall because it will keep you stuck. Did you hear me on that? I talked about staying anchored in things that you cannot change will keep you stuck blame your partner will keep you stuck. Because you can’t change. What’s happened? It’s impossible to do unless somebody has invented the time machine. Maybe a DeLorean which by the way, as a side note, is a bit of a squirrel. Have you seen the new electric DeLorean this coming out? Looks freakin awesome. I want to drive that thing. But we’re not Doc Brown from Back to the Future and creating a time machine out of this to try to change your partner. placing blame is holding you in the past.
Practice keeps practicing acceptance is understanding what you can do going forward and some different actions that you can take I’m sure you’ve heard this before the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over again and expecting the same result. A good friend of mine, an investor in the company actually told me one time he’s like, You know what? You keep beating your head against the wall still gonna hurt every single time. Practice acceptance breaks the cycle, practicing acceptance cuts a hole in that loop practicing acceptance forges a path forward. So today, coming out of this be that 1% be that 1% That practices acceptance, not making excuses
Go ALL IN…