The Lone Wolf Mindset

Episode Topics:

• The importance of realizing where you are not
• Mortality rate of lone wolves vs. in a pack
• Having an awakening to Change NOW

What’s shakin’ welcome back! I’m saying welcome back because this is tagging off of last week’s episode. Share this out with three people and listen to this one first if you’re here right now and then go back and listen to last week’s because last week, I talked about these four quotes from Charlie Chaplin. But when I was done, my 15 year old son had just turned 15, who actually helps with the production here at the show, ended up saying is like, “You just pissed off a lot of sad people”  

And it was interesting, because I was talking towards the end of that show about the lone wolf. And I’m going to dive into that here today. I’m sure you’ve heard this like, “I’m a lone wolf, you know, I’m better alone..” All these things. And we’ll explain why that isn’t really a good case. Right? But let’s start with this. My son told me he’s like, “Well, you just pissed off a lot of sad people.” I was having breakfast. Sorry, lunch, actually, with Andy Frisella. And if you’re not listening to his show, you should. Right now it’s REAL AF. He used to be MF CEO. Amazing dude. Right? We were having lunch at Arete Syndicate at one of the live events. I’m part of the Arete Syndicate, an awesome, awesome mastermind, by the way. And Andy does this thing called 75 Hard, right? Because he fluctuates with weights. And this is something he did to help his mental toughness, it’s not a weight loss program. But that ends up being like a side effect. Because you get your mind right. And you go strong into this. It’s a pretty cool program. Right?

I was talking to him about my weight loss journey. And the thing about my weight loss journey is that I was sad. And I didn’t even know it. Right. I was very, very big. 6’1” 180 pounds, right. And I lost 90 pounds, it got down to 190. I am now 210. Because I started working afterwards and put on a lot of muscle mass. I was like skinny, skinny, skinny fat actually, when I was 190, right? No muscle mass still had junk around my belly just because I had no muscle. Now I’ve put that muscle back on. And I’m very fit. I love where I’m at right now. Absolutely love it. 

So when I was telling him the story and what, what changed for me what actually tipped me to where I’m like, I’m gonna get health, I was in a movie theater, and just walking by a dude. And I don’t know if he was drunk or what but he looks at me. He’s like, “What’s up chubby?” And I said that and as I’m telling Andy the story, he looks at me he’s like, “It pissed you off, didn’t it?” And I told him like it did. It absolutely did. But here’s the thing, right? And this comes back to my son Richard saying, “Dad, you pissed off a lot of sad people with this last episode.” Which was the one published just last week. Because I started getting pissed off at this dude, who called me chubby. 

But then I go to the washroom, and I look in the mirror and I’m like, “Man, he’s right.” And then I start recognizing that I’m not pissed off at him at the dude that called me chubby. I’m pissed off of myself. I’m looking at myself in the mirror. And I’m like, God, how did you let yourself get this way? What the hell’s wrong with you? How could you let it go this long? It’s been like 15 years, you’re 90 pounds overweight? Why didn’t you do something about this sooner? You’ve got kids now you want to be around for them? And I started blasting myself mentally. When I told him this, “I’m like yeah it did man.” He said “Good. That’s what it takes.” 

A lot of times to make a significant change in yourself, you have to get pissed off. So in the last episode, if you listen to it already, if you’re gonna go back and listen, when you get pissed off, that’s fine. You can be pissed at me at first. But then you get to do what I did. And you get to recognize that that’s just a projection because you’re really just pissed off at you. For not making a choice for not going in a direction for missing an opportunity. That’s why you’re pissed off. You’re not really pissed off at me. You might think you are at first, but you’re really pissed off at yourself. They can do what I did, you know what, stand up, now or afterwards, keep this episode going. And go look at yourself in the mirror. And I’m not talking figuratively or metaphorically. I’m talking just like I did in the washroom. Go look at yourself in a real mirror right now. It’s okay to cry. If you’re a dude, a girl,l doesn’t matter. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to get pissed off or watch it pissed off. Because that’s the only way you’re probably going to make a change. 

And you might have thought like I was talking about the last episode by being this lone wolf. Right. I was talking about how that’s actually not a good thing. And the same son that I have, I have two sons, Richard says, “I love alpha male quotes when I need a good laugh.” and he’s joking, he’s being sarcastic, right? Because he thinks they’re stupid AF. Like, “I’m a lone wolf, because I respect myself.” That’s the one that he told me and I started laughing with them. Just like that’s the furthest, furthest thing from the truth. You want to know where that phrase came from, you know, people hear this phrase like the lone wolf, go look at the studies, the mortality rate of lone wolves is significantly higher than those in a pack. Especially if they’re sick. I’m talking about five times higher in some cases. 

So if you’re a lone wolf one, you’re probably pissed off yourself. But you’re, you’re projecting that on other people, like maybe people you are with, maybe people you started a business with, maybe your family, maybe your church, maybe your wife, maybe your husband, maybe your kids. You’re pissed off at them right now. But really, what it really is, is that you’re pissed off at yourself, for not doing what you should have, for not making a choice, for missing an opportunity. And now you call yourself this lone wolf, because you quote unquote, “respect yourself.” 

Bullshit. You are disrespecting yourself by being this lone wolf. It’s time to get back with the pack. It’s time to understand that you cannot proceed further unless you do one of two things. Actually, really both things. One, get pissed off. You probably already are but go look in the mirror in a physical mirror and realize that really, you’re pissed off at yourself and then feel that and the second thing is get back with your pack, form a new one if you have to. Join a new one if you have to. Get back with the pack. 

Today’s the day you make those two decisions and you’re going to start breaking free of whatever the hell it is that’s weighing you down right now that’s pissing you off right now because things change today. 

You got it. Go ALL IN.