The One Thing You Need To Do to Get What You Really Want

Today we’re going to be talking about your expectations of an outcome. Okay, and this is going to be interesting, it’s going to be fast paced, direct, hard hitting, brutal truth. So buckle up, that’s all I’m gonna say, and as we go into this here, what I want you to start thinking about is three people that you can share this episode with today, because we don’t promote, we don’t run ads, we don’t take sponsors, the only way that we can help more people is with your help, please, I’m asking for your help right now inviting you to be part of my team to share this out with three other people at least so we can continue to help more people grow and tackle this thing we call life and today, we’re talking about those expectations of outcomes.

Okay, and this came up recently in my life, and it pops up every now and then because I’ve been called an optimist, right? I used to think of myself as like a realist, but then I actually started realizing that, you know, a realist actually can be an optimist, but a realist, if somebody ever says, “Well, I’ll just be a realist, and you’ll be an optimist.” The thing around that is that they’re just really saying, “Hey, you know what, I think something’s gonna get screwed up because I’m planning on it.” There’s nothing wrong with having a back up plan, okay, I’ll just throw that out there right now, but the expectation of something going wrong, or expectation of chaos, or just fights or with the relationship or something blowing up at work, when you take out a new project, or whatever it is, that expectation of having a turnout badly, will almost guarantee that it is most definitely going to suck ass, not just through the process, but when you actually get to it, that’s what’s going to happen because of this thing called baggage.

Okay, when you have this baggage, and most of the time, it’s usually because of past experiences, that you bring it into the current situation, right here in front of you, like, you know, and all this stupid crap before it’s gonna happen again, because this is how it always turns out. Wrong! That’s not how it always turns out, have you ever thought about this, that if you keep going, and this is where it’s gonna be hard hitting today, if you keep going into a similar situation over and over and over again, and keeps turning out a bad way, one, maybe it’s not a situation you should be in but maybe it is, I mean, maybe like a job or something like that. Like if you keep getting fired, job after job after job after job, or maybe you have the same kind of negative interactions where nobody understands me, you know, I never am valued for what I do, or all these other things, you’ve told yourself job after job after job. Here’s a wake up call for you; Maybe it’s you.

Let’s go back to that. If this keeps happening, Time after time again, and whatever, maybe you’ve been married five times, okay and it’s the same thing. The person cheats on you every single time, right, and you’ve been married five times, or something happens where that person just divorces you five times in a row. Maybe it’s you, and I don’t mean this in a bad way. Today, I hope you feel my heart because I want you to come out of today a person that understands that you’re ready for this, it’s okay to be happy. It is okay to be happy. It is okay. to expect a positive outcome. I have this thing that I love that I call a positive outcome mindset. Going into it as if there’s no option except for it to go amazing

Sure you have to plan for these pitfalls and things that happen and almost nothing ever in my life. I’m being straight with you. Almost nothing ever in my life ever goes completely according to plan but that’s okay because mostly everything in my life actually ends up happening in a positive way. Mostly everything because I’m always going into it with this comment that I make with my team, with my kids, whoever that you know what it’s gonna work, or it’s gonna work. I don’t go into it with any other options. So I always show up with that as an outcome.It’s like I look to the future and this is something you can do, think of something right now that you’re thinking about something you’re struggling with, right, or this new thing that you’re afraid to do or something you have to do tomorrow and you’re like, man, if only and remember, it’s okay to be happy.

Think about that, and as you look at the end, imagine yourself sitting in that end of that situation right now, what is the best possible way you can think of that that will turn out? What is that right now? Think about it. What is the best as your eyes are closed? Just listen to my voice. What is the best possible way that that will turn out? What is the best possible way that that will turn out? What could be possible for you? If it turned out that way? That amazing, positive, incredible, mind blowing way, what could be possible for you?

Now here’s what I want you to do to place yourself in that situation right now. It’s already turned out, everything’s happened already. All the amazingness has been realized, you completed the project successfully, or it’s 20 years down the road and you’re in a successful marriage, you still love each other, or you just got that promotion at work, or you started your business and now you broke that seven-figure glass ceiling, you’re doing a million dollars in revenue, place yourself in that situation right now, where you’ve already achieved the best possible thing that you could and it turned out the most amazing way you feel that? It feels freaking awesome, doesn’t it?

Now, from this point forward, your life can be different, because you already know exactly how that is going to turn out in such an amazing way, because from here forward, your life can be different. It can be healthy, you can achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve in the best possible way for it to turn out. I want you to do this, when you go into any situation from now on, just do what we just did today, because once you picture that best possible outcome, you bring it forward into the present right now and think, “Wow, I already know what I have to do to get there because I already know that it’s gonna work out freaking fantastic.” It’s actually pretty easy to get there. It might not be simple, might have a lot of steps to it, that might be complex. But complexity can also be easy when you know what steps those are, because you’re already operating as if you’re already done completely, successfully, positively, to the exact way, the best way that it could turn out for you. It’s incredible.

Some people call this visualization and that’s what we walk through today because if the inverse happens, if you’re going into a conversation expecting that there’s going to be a blow up, if you’re going into work this week with the project and think “This is never gonna work for me. It’s never going to be successful if you’re going into a marriage. You know, you know what, that seven years down the road, 20 years down the road, one of those two, because that’s where all marriages break up at that seven year and 20 year mark. Yeah, it’s probably going to happen to me too, because I saw it happen to my mom. So I was so I’d happened to actually the person I marry a mirroring right now it happened to them too. After seven years, they got divorced, whatever,” if you go into it with that, I guarantee you that you will find a way somehow to self sabotage it because it’s already your expectation and it’s exactly what we just did, just on the negative end of the spectrum.

Are you picking up with that today? Come on, follow me here, you can go into it and visualize an amazing positive outcome or you can flip and figure out the worst that could happen to you and either way, you are the one that creates that now going forward, because you have that expectation and your actions will steer the ship in whatever direction you want to steer it in. This is truth because you could have the best possible project you could have at work, you can have all the skills, all the resources, everything you need to make a lot of money at this thing or get that promotion because you’re going to crush it and you’re thinking going into a lot of this is never gonna, you’re gonna find a way to screw it up.

Or you could sit there and do what we just did and ask yourself the question, close your eyes and ask yourself the question, you’re already at the end of the project of whatever that situation was and you’re saying what is the best possible way that this could turn out for me and then you bring it forward to right now and you can go through with it. Understand that you’ve already done it, because it’s just a general reminder. It is okay, to be happy and today forward, your life can be different because this is a cycle that our minds can get into. Always focusing on the negative and expecting the negative. Try it because from here forward, your life can be different, and it can be healthy, and it can be amazing.