The Power of Choice: How to Truly Own Your Life

Watch the episode here:

• Discover the seven pivotal insights to live life on your terms.
• Learn why challenges are your stepping stones to resilience and strength.
• Understand the importance of genuine connections and distancing from negativity.
• Realize why every day, not just weekends, is an opportunity for fulfillment.
• Get inspired to work silently on your dreams and let your success make the noise.

Hey, what’s shakin’? Hey, I’m Rick Jordan today, we’re going all in. These are really like seven things that I took down, okay, on how to live life on your own terms some of these things are more like understanding items of understanding, and others are actual, like, Hey, here’s things to do or not do. So the number one is really one of those items of understanding, and you have to start to grasp, while you’ll have people in your life that will be there to support you and be there to help you. No one is going to come save you. Because ultimately, where you’re going, and what you’re going to do, what you’re going to be what you’re going to accomplish, what you’re going to create, ultimately lies on you. It’s almost like life is kind of like a checkerboard, okay? So you might have something you know, if it’s the universe, or life or whatever that moves a piece, guess what, it’s your turn, you can’t keep playing the game, you can’t keep going towards what you want, and trying to King that checker piece. Unless you actually start making the moves. 

So when life makes a move, it’s just sitting here and being like, cool. Now your move, I laid something before you right now. And now you get to choose whether you want to respond to that, whether you want to do something about it, and which direction you want to go, no one is going to come to save you, and no one’s going to sit in your chair and move the checker piece for you. It’s up to you. It’s just a piece of understanding. Number two, and this one’s a big one is you’re gonna have hard times, you’re gonna have challenges while you’re figuring out what your moves are. Okay, but every challenge, hard time, and pain you endure will turn into strength, resilience, and blessings. Did you catch that? Because as you go through these challenges these hard times, and you come out with learnings, you will endure these things. And it’s almost you know, not quite like battle scars, but you’re able to have an understanding and a maturity about you from the situations that you’ve gone through in your life. 

Think back 10 years, I know that I have a ton of learnings myself from when my dad died, from my first job at McDonald’s from a bunch of different things that I’ve done in life from getting fired, laid off from a job, there’s so many learnings that I have from mistakes that I’ve made, that will created hard times, like I made mistakes, and it created hard times and some pain, yes. But all those turned into me being able to figure out how to move past those, which means that hey, you know what, I’m actually strong. I endured it, which means I’m actually resilient. And because of those things, now I can reap the blessings in my life because of how I’ve righted my ship, or because of how I have dealt with these things some of which may not have even been in my control. But they were thrust upon me and it’s how I responded to them that made me strong and resilient. 

To achieve those blessings in my life. Number three, this is more of an understanding, okay? Number one of those understandings on how to live life on your own terms. Don’t expect people you’re ready for this. Don’t expect people to be honest, who lie to themselves. And this kind of has to do with circles around you on how to live life on your own terms. And who has access to you who you should let in those circles, who will keep you held back because they want to stay in their comfort zone and they want to be comfortable with you staying in the same place you are. They’re lying to themselves, because they’re in that safe place of suffering, and you can’t expect people to give you good opinions. when really they’re already those are just gonna be lies and not applicable to your to your life. Because those are just lies they’ve created in their lives, and they’re lying to themselves. Right now. You can’t expect people to be honest when they’re lying to themselves. Number four is you don’t owe anyone an explanation or justification, especially when you decide to cut people out of your life. 

Those people that we’re talking about number three, or you start to distance yourself from them, maybe even temporarily, because you’re doing what’s best for you. And that’s okay. There’s this thing that we have in human society that, you know, we have to have closure on things, you know, and this is somewhat of a longing desire. But I’m going to tell you right now that closure is actually designed to keep you stuck. You might never get closure, but you can still have healing. You hear me you might never have closure, but you can still have healing. And that’s because of the choices that you made and You do not have to explain those, you do not have to justify those to anyone, this will be the toughest with family, with close family, maybe with parents, maybe with siblings, it’ll be the toughest there. Because as you start to grow, the people that are closest to you are the ones that are going to nag at you the most. This is something that I’ve learned in my life, too, is that the people that are closest to you, they’ve just known you the longest. They’re familiar with where you’re at right now. And they won’t understand. 

So even if it’s just temporary, to where you start to distance yourself from those people, it’s okay, you don’t owe anyone an explanation, or justification for your choices. And this number five here goes along with this is that don’t argue with them. Because sometimes, because of their traumas, they actually want to misunderstand you. Like they have a filter up there. So don’t argue with people who want to misunderstand you. This is just a red flag to say that if that’s that person, you absolutely need to distance yourself from them, starve them with silence, it’s okay, don’t engage. Because it’s only going to bring you down and trigger you. That’s the whole reason for distancing yourself from that person in the first place. Because they have this thing and they like being stuck in their cycles in their traumas, and they want to misunderstand you because they’re, they just want to sit in their crap. It’s okay to not argue with people who want to misunderstand you. 

That’s how you know that it’s time to distance yourself from those people. Number six, I love this one. Because all of this you know, even when it comes to like I was talking like family, and whatever those people that are closest to you, that will be the ones that will be the hardest on you when you start to grow is life is just way too short for the just to live for the weekends. Life is just way too short, just to live for the weekends. There’s so much more to life and more fulfillment every single day of the week. What I’m getting by this is your purpose, which can be linked to your job it can be linked into your career can be linked into your business, and it can be linked into your dreams and your visions. And those don’t take days off. There’s this concept of integration that I talked about where long time ago like an episode two or three, on how life in work and family and everything is just all one. There’s no time set aside for that stuff. Even if you’re punching a clock in manufacturing plants, you still don’t just live for the weekends because the choices that you make at your job affect your family, and the choices you make at home, affect what you do at your job. 

Whether you’re even fulfilled to your job can be affected by choices with your family at home, there is no real like weekend as far as taking breaks and separating stuff. And I’m not saying taking some time off or getting off the grid for a minute or whatever. Just like moving yourself away just for an hour or two in the middle of the day for a clarity break. That’s awesome. I’m talking about this like segregation between your purpose and your job and your family. Or your separation or segregation. Between Monday through Friday and Saturday and Sunday. Your purpose does not know the weekend your joy and happiness don’t have to just be on the weekends. You need to be joyous and happy. You deserve to be joyous and happy every single freaking day of the week. So if you put your purpose on hold, to say, I’m only going to touch this on the weekends, I’m only going to start my side hustle on the weekends. Because maybe someday, maybe someday, maybe someday. How about maybe two days? None. Number seven. 

You don’t need to make big announcements when you start this stuff either. You don’t need to tell people, hey, I’m going to distance you you can from you for a little bit or temporarily. You don’t need to tell people that you’re starting a side hustle because remember I was talking about those, those circles of people that are the closest to you are the ones that are going to be the hardest on you. You don’t have to make a big announcement saying I’m doing this now. Because you were just kind of asking for that pushback in that moment. You can quietly work on your dreams until it becomes too big for everyone else to ignore. I wish I had known this a couple of years ago and understood this concept because now it’s pretty. It’s pretty hard to ignore what I’ve done and what I’ve accomplished. It’s pretty evident now at this point, but I’m telling you when I started a few years ago and really started trying to go big and impact a lot of people in a positive way. I got a lot of pushback. And the reason I got a lot of pushback is because I told them what I was going to do.

Don’t put yourself through that strife, it’s a lot easier to just let them see for themselves, and then they can become more accepting of it. And I feel that then they can actually come along with you a little easier, those people that are closest around you because there’s a secret about that, right? Even those people that are closest around you that you’re that you need to maybe distance yourself from right now, they actually probably do care about you. That’s very likely, I mean, just look at the history that you have with those individuals. And I’m not saying that there might be some that just need to go away. And they were only there for a season. I talked about that just recently, in a previous episode about friends being here for a season, right? But I’m talking about those that you might need to temporarily just say, hey, in your mind, I got stuff to accomplish, I got stuff I want to get done, I have dreams that I want to see become reality in my life. And that can be just between you and you when you start to quietly work on them until you become too big to ignore. And then they’ll be like, Oh, my goodness, you know, this is awesome, because the people that are hardest on you in the beginning, that saying, Oh, you’ll never do that. Why are you doing that? Whatever. 

Those are also the same people that in the end will be saying, Oh, I always knew you could, oh, I never doubted you for one minute. Obviously, it’s BS, but it’s just because they couldn’t comprehend because they like being in that place where you were familiar with them. And what you did was familiar and comfortable for them because it didn’t put a mirror in front of them, and almost had to make them face their traumas or their own shortcomings in their lives. So you don’t need to make these big announcements. My friends, this is how to live life on your own terms and just some tips for you today to start to go after everything you’ve ever wanted in your life and see it become reality. Go get it