About the Episode:
Listen to a remastered episode from the archives… Rick Jordan tells us a personal story that is near and dear to his heart, around a simple interaction in a local grocery store. Listen in on his life lesson for how far kindness can really take you and the people around you.
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- Kindness is a form of love, a true for,
- Kindness makes the world go round
- Acts of service – a love language
- Fulfillment in life
- Simple offerings of peace and kindness
Hey, what’s shakin’, hey, I’m Rick Jordan today, we’re going all in. I remember a woman who was in the grocery store, and she was around 80 years old or so. And she was fumbling with her money, right? And she was just sitting there trying to buy some gelato at the grocery store the shop at Mariano’s in Chicago, they sell gelato, and I was behind her in line, and she couldn’t get her money out right away. She was just getting a cup of gelato. That’s what I think it was just one scoop. And she was elderly. And I’m watching her and then I just step up because I was getting gelato to heck yeah, it was love gelato. I stepped up and I’m like, You know what, today’s on me, miss, I am happy to get you some gelato today. And I didn’t call attention to the actual issue she was having with getting the money out or anything like that. And it was just I wanted to do this for her because oh my gosh, she looks so sweet. And she was struggling just to get them like, you know what I just want to do this for it’s like something inside. I mean, this happens all the time to with me something inside of me. Just shoved me into that mode. And she looks up at me and her eyes start tearing up. And I’m looking at her. I’m like, are you okay? She goes, today is my birthday. And she’s like, my husband died five years ago. And he and I used to go out all the time. And he would always be the one to get me to lotto on my birthday. And today because it’s just like, Oh, sir, because you did this today. I’m actually feeling like, I have some healing over my husband not being around anymore and spending this time with me because he was the only one that I thought in my life that would actually do this for me. And here you are. And her. I asked her how old she was, you know, she was I don’t remember her exact age.
But she turned 80 Something that day. And it just made her day. But even more importantly, kindness is healing. The kindness that you show somebody else could just very well allow them to heal a wound or a trauma because you just blew out of the water. This misconception that they’ve been telling themselves for over a year is about something with whatever’s going on in their life because of something that happened in their life. All because you showed up and kindness, and you were able to be used to heal that person’s wounds. That’s pretty freakin amazing. All because of kindness. Imagine now, if someone was able to do that for you. It’s incredible. Because this leads to another thing that kindness does. Because when you move into this area in this mode in your life, at this moment, it transformed her life. But imagine if you provide that kindness and giving that kind of someone else at that moment can transform your life too. And this happened. This happened years and years ago when I started having this mindset of just giving and giving more and giving more on how all this stuff would just start to show up out of nowhere, all these good things will start to show up out of nowhere. You can call it karma, you can call it faith, you can call a god you can call your source, whatever you want to call it. All I know is this is how the world works.
When you show kindness, it will transform not only the life of the person, you’re showing that kindness to transform your life, by being that person being that conduit of kindness, you will start to see some amazing things happen in your life, in your relationships in your business, by just showing kindness, it will transform your life. Now, here’s an interesting twist on this whole kindness thing it is a choice that you make to do this. No one’s gonna force you to be nice, no one’s gonna force you to show kindness, no one’s gonna force you to show up for somebody else. No, this is a choice that you have to make. At that moment in that line. I had a choice to sit there and either be impatient with this woman, this elderly woman, or I could look at her with a look and be like, Oh my god, I gotta get back to work, or whatever else, or just have all these crazy things rather than being like, you know what? I’m sure the reason that she was fumbling with her money is because of all these memories flooding to her at that moment on how after her husband passed away and how she would still go for gelato on her birthday. But now it’s solo by herself. Of course, she’s going to be in a state, an emotional state at that point, which could cause her to fumble through the money in that moments.
Kindness was a choice for me that I made, you will always know these things, and you will always recognize these things. And I personally believe that even if you’ve shut off the switch, because kindness, I believe is inherent to everybody, I look at my kids when they were born, and how they started to grow up and how they’ve always had this amazing heart to be able to show kindness. And I’ve tried to create this environment for them that would foster this and be like, This is amazing. You want to keep doing this. And you know, they continue to do it, continue to do it, because they see, and even just in these immersive environments, where they recognize kindness as a choice, and maybe you grew up in a crappy house, I’m sorry, I’m sorry, the people around you probably made a choice to not be kind. And that sucks. I get it. I understand. Because I’ve been around some crappy people in my life too, especially in church environments, to where it could be they do one thing and say something completely different. It just doesn’t match up. Right? It’s difficult. It’s difficult to show kindness if you’ve had this pattern of not being shown kindness your entire life. And I’m sorry, I feel you.
I’m going to ask you right now to think what could be possible for you, if you started showing kindness to other people, if instead of just passing over these moments, because I believe that kindness is built into us, and then we recognize on some level, whenever those opportunities show up, that we can actually click in our heads and be like, Oh, I could be kind to this person right now. By doing something for them, or showing up a certain way. Those I always feel that we can recognize because you know why? Because I know when I make the choice, and I’m human guys, I mess up sometimes when I make the choice, to not show that kindness in the morning at the moment and just move on with my day I think about that, like 10 seconds later hits me. It’s like, ah, what was my problem there? I had all this stuff going on, and all these things going through my head and I’m human, I messed up, there are times I go back, there are times that I go back. There are some times that I missed the opportunity. And I think that’s like, you know what, tomorrow comes? Hell no, I’m hitting this, I’m making the choice tomorrow to be kind and show up for somebody else. Why? Because kindness also feels good to the person you’re showing kindness to and who sees you, it feels good, who wants to feel good? I know you want to feel good. Come on, kindness will just lift your entire day off and lift the other person’s entire day up hell, maybe even their gear, which I like to think about in this in this case, in this gelato story with this woman that I’m talking about. It completely shifted the direction of her life is how I feel because it allowed that healing to take place. Healing feels good.
Healing feels really, really freaking good. When you’re able to close that wound and let the past be the past so that you can move on with your life and continue in what your purpose is. Kindness feels good. It is a form of love. Kindness is a form of love, and people why? Because I feel that you can feel this. Now, we said that we weren’t going to get into love today. But this is a form of it. So those of you who are questioning maybe I don’t even know what love is. I don’t even know what love is. If someone is consistently kind to you, they probably love you on a certain level. No joke, and it might not be romantic love. You know, it might be unconditional love, or might be like fatherly or motherly love, or it might be friendly love. It might be just love for your neighbor. Right just for the general public. I have a lot of that. That’s one reason I show kindness because I’m looking around and you and I generally love pretty much everybody else. It’s around that brotherly love kind of scenario that neighborly love to where I want to just be kind because it is a form of love. If you’re curious about what love really is in life, this is one way that people show love is kindness. And that’s the unconditional part. I didn’t want anything back for buying this amazing woman some gelato on her birthday. I didn’t care to get anything back I just wanted to do it for her.
You know because we can get into narcissism and all that we talked about that on the show before because the only reason they’re being kind it’s fake kindness love bombing, when their love Butler’s without a word again, love bombing is when they’re actually doing it to get something or to get attention or something like that. Kindness is a form of love when it has no expectation of return. That’s how you show up for people. And when you show up for people in that way it freakin creates miracles, for real, it creates miracles. It’s incredible because I know a miracle happened on that day with this woman’s healing because I decided I made the choice to be kind to be there and to be a part of this miracle creation to where she was able to heal this wound and have an amazing day because, for five years prior five years, she was doing this by herself after her husband died. And today, she had a miracle of somebody else in her life, making her special day, her birthday. Just an amazing day with some incredible gelato. Show kindness, every chance you get. It is a choice. It is healing, it transforms your life. It feels good. It’s a form of love and kindness creates miracles.
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