Losing My People Pleaser Attitude

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2 Minute Drill

I’m Not Your Guru

Gene Hackman

 

Episode Topics:

• Finding a way out of People Pleasing
• Focusing on being Grateful
• Having it ALL on paper
• Coping Mechanisms to fill your spiritual hole
• Authentically finding and being you

 

Rick Jordan:

What shakin’! Here we are again. We are back, and today we’re going all in with a self mastery coach, former siriusXM morning show host who used her own despair and hopelessness as the fertile ground for radical self-improvement and personal growth. And also also just an amazing woman who I’ve gotten to know here and have shared the camera with. Andrea Lowell. What’s shaken? 

Andrea Lowell:

Oh, my, Rick Jordan, I’m so happy to be here. Thank you for having me on. I just can’t wait to see where this conversation goes and, uh, what the two of us will shake loose. 

Rick Jordan:

<laugh> Me too. The last time we saw each other, we were in person, obviously seeing each other and on, uh, David Meltzer show, Two Minute Drill when we were filming for that. 

Andrea Lowell:

And That’s right. That was so much fun. Yeah, 

Rick Jordan:

That just released too, a little bit ago. That was a blast. What was so cool for me, and I, I could tell like where your morning show host this, That’s a fun word. Host this Yeah. <laugh> 

Andrea Lowell:

Ness with the most ness. 

Rick Jordan:

Yes. <laugh>. That’s brilliant. Where it came in because we were talking and it’s the same thing, right? Cuz I mean, I try to be as much of me as possible in every, in every aspect of it, but then when you get into this mode and it, it’s become better over time. So now it’s like my podcast voice is like my everyday voice. It’s almost become that because there’s like all this energy, you know? But it was so cool because as soon as the cameras rolled, it was like, you became like this amazing, just like poised individual. I’m like, Oh man, no, this is amazing. <laugh>, 

Andrea Lowell:

<laugh>. There’s definitely a flip that switches when I’m hosting a guest on a show. Yeah. Um, presenting, you know, reading a teleprompter. You just kind of go into almost like newscaster mode, if that makes sense. I get you. And yeah, when I used to do it every day, all day, you know, um, on Sirius XM, three hours a day nonstop talk, like, you know, back in the day there were no commercials. Like you had a 32nd break, you had to run to the bathroom, come back. You got so exhausted from being that performer all day that you would actually just kind of shut down. Yeah. Which you got home. And, uh, so I’m, I’m still kind of in that mode though. Like, we’re all reserve, reserve, reserve my energy and then as soon as the camera comes on, I’m like, Hey everyone, welcome to the show, <laugh>. 

Rick Jordan:

There’s something to that, you know, And it’s, uh, if I think back, even to like Tony Robbins, right? I don’t know if that, if you watch the, if you go to the Netflix and watch and go to, did I say the Netflix? Did I seriously just say that? Did I say go to Netflix? Right? I make jokes. I’m like, I’m gonna go look it up on Google. That’s just a joke that I use now. <laugh>, you know, But I, I think I just said the Netflix <laugh>, Wow. We, when you look on Netflix, there’s a show called, uh, or a documentary about Tony Robbins called I’m Not Your Guru. And it’s cool because you get to see his pre-stage routine and one thing that he does, I didn’t know this until watching his dock, is he’ll jump on this small trampoline right before he goes on stage to get himself pumped up. 

Rick Jordan:

You know? But prior, mm-hmm. <affirmative>, he is seriously just like chilling before then. You know, like going through the format of what he’s gonna talk about that day. It’s not like super high energy. Now. I know you and I are people that are, and he generally is like super high energy all the time. But there, there is something for that, right? When you have to do these things. And this is what we’re giving life advice by the way, right now. <laugh> before you’re doing a big thing or whatever, you know, it’s, it’s still you. But I’m, I’m rambling because I’m, I’m thinking not rambling, but I’m monologuing and what helped me, cuz I noticed too with you on the show, right? You were just gorgeous in your, I think it was an orange jumper, wasn’t it, that you had on 

Andrea Lowell:

Red jumpsuit baby. 

Rick Jordan:

That’s it. Yeah. That’s like your power thing. And it was so cool. And, and then I see you on Instagram and you’re in pretty much what you’re in right now. <laugh>, you know, what, what are you more comfortable in? Or is it both just depending on the moment? 

Andrea Lowell:

You know, that is such a good question. There are certain, I hate to see like a costume, but there’s certain, you know, things I put on or jewelry I put on or makeup that I do that really helps me get into character. So if I’m going on a show with you, David Meltzer, a bunch of other super successful people, I’m gonna put on what makes me, you know, bring out that boss babe kind of energy and that’s gonna be my red power jumpsuit. You know, bring my hair and makeup girl from my old, you know, days on tv. That’s right. And just feel like a million bucks. Yeah, that’s right. I did. I can’t, I can’t risk it. Right? Yeah. 

Rick Jordan:

<laugh> 

Andrea Lowell:

And but truly, you know, um, I am authentically mean. Any of those outfits. Yeah. Like that version you met that is so authentically me. But you know, typically day in, day out, I might be in my workout leggings at a sports bra or like, you know, a cutoff tie, dye tank top <laugh>. So it really just depends on where I’m going and how I need to feel. 

Rick Jordan:

That’s cool. You called it a costume too. And my, my media coach, my very first media coach, cuz I did go through actual media training before I started doing all this big media. This was like four years, almost five years ago. And right on, he called it a costume, you know? And one of the things at that point I was going on is like an author, because that was one thing to get me on tv, wrote a book, literally just wrote the book, which ended up being a good book. Uh, I think anyway. Or a fun book. And that got me on tv, on lifestyle shows, you know, it wasn’t like what I, it wasn’t what I do right now, you know, cuz I go on like CBS, Money Talk National, you know, now to talk about the Elon Musk deal and the cybersecurity and all those things. Different scenario, right? Rather than doing something like a lifestyle segment. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>. So he’s like, you gotta wear a suit. You gotta wear a suit with a bright tie. That’s what you have to wear. That’s your costume. Like, that’s not me, <laugh> and <laugh>. He’s like, No, but it is you as an author, it’s a costume that you need for right now. Like <laugh>. Okay. 

Andrea Lowell:

I would’ve been like Rick, you know, in the multiverse there’s a version of you that, that is that suit wearing author, just channel him 

Rick Jordan:

<laugh>. Yeah, right on. Now it’s, now I go on, you know, I go on Bloomberg or whatever and I’m wearing my black t-shirt in my black 

Andrea Lowell:

Because that’s you right on. Now it’s like the Rick Jordan costume is the authentic Rick Jordan, which is, I knew I was gonna see today in a black T-shirt. Yeah. That’s new to me. And I love it. You know, it’s like I don’t have to try to dress a certain way to make anyone happy or try to fit in. Like this is me. I’m unapologetic for it and I’m showing up. And if people love it, they love it. If they don’t, bye. Bingo. 

Rick Jordan:

I love it. 

Andrea Lowell:

Bingo. 

Rick Jordan:

This is so cool. Cause I love where our conversation is going today and I know everyone listening is gonna pick up some huge tips because this is, you know, unapologetically authentic. You know, that’s how you need to be and how you dress and how you show up to things, you know, That doesn’t mean be a slob. Right. You know, it’s not right. It’s not like we’re 

Andrea Lowell:

Like, don’t be disrespectful. 

Rick Jordan:

Exactly. Yep. Yeah. 

Rick Jordan:

Cause I mean, we were taking pitches on that TV program, right? And these are real startups, that’s, these are real startups that are looking for real money, real help from us as judges. And I was inter, you know, as I saw them show up, there was a lot that were dressing or showing up energetically in a way that really didn’t seem like them. You know? And then, it was funny cuz just this morning I saw a post that from, uh, this dude named Brett, I can’t remember what his company was, right? But then he was like, you know, he was going through all the individuals that were the judges on this episode. He’s like, then there was Rick Jordan, he was the Simon Cow <laugh> for our pitch <laugh>. But then, but then he’s like met outside of the studio and he’s just this huge softy, you know? And I’m like, but that’s the thing. It’s like, both are me. I’m gonna be direct and straight up to you because that’s authentic for me, but I’m also gonna support you in every possible way that I can. 

Andrea Lowell:

That’s right. It’s like if we’re in a position where we’re being asked to critique a pitch, I’m gonna show up as Andrea, you’re gonna show up as Rick and we’re gonna critique that pitch. Yeah. But if we’re just having a conversation about coffee or, you know, uh, a beverage of your choice or dinner or sushi or something, I’m not gonna be critiquing and being very <laugh>, very kind of a judgmental and discerning, I’m just gonna be having a free flowing conversation. So it’s like a time and a place. There’s a time and a place, but they’re all authentically us. And that’s why you and I, we get picked to do things like that because people know that we’re gonna come as us and they trust us and they know that we’re not gonna phone it in. And they actually respect our opinion and want our opinion. 

Andrea Lowell:

And I think that’s the cool thing too. So a lot of people when they’re being inauthentic, they just wanna mirror other successful people. Or they say, Oh, well that person’s doing that. Maybe I’ll try what he’s doing. And it’s like what he’s doing is being radically and ruthlessly authentic. That to him, you can’t do him. You’re gonna get further from success if you just try to copy everyone. It doesn’t need to be inspired by people, you know, be inspired by everyone. That’s what, that’s what people like you and I do. We’re here to say, Hey look, we’ve built our businesses, we’ve built this lifestyle. Please let us teach you the path that we took and let us inspire you to hold your hand and guide you. But don’t copy me to a t Yeah. Right on. You know what I’m saying? Yeah, 

Rick Jordan:

Yeah. It’s a, it’s a, there’s a difference between copying and modeling, right? Right. And copying is like, I’m gonna be just like you. But modeling, I, it’s good, I think to model somebody, at least in your beginning days of whatever it is that you’re doing, or even if you level up to, to this new area in life or business, you can find a new person to model like, Oh, they’ve done this before. I’m gonna, I’m gonna study them. I’m gonna see how they got through these struggles and passed these things. And you know what? Because they probably figured some stuff out. And even more so they probably made some mistakes that I could avoid by just looking at where they fell 

Andrea Lowell:

1000%. And that’s why so many people get a business coach or a mentor right on, or a life coach. Because I need someone to model that for me. Show me the path you took. Let me do it, maybe follow your daily ritual until I find my own. Uh, let me hear about your gratitude practice. Let me see what, you know, you do, how you run your schedule. Yeah. Let me model that. But then once you get capable after modeling someone who’s inspired you that you have a mutual agreement with, you know, then you find what works for you based on your experience with that. Because what works for you, and I might not work long term for someone else, but it might just be, you know, that fertile ground for growth that they needed. Just be put on a path. So I see benefits to modeling. Absolutely. 

Rick Jordan:

I love it. Oh, you do a lot of talk as I follow you. I see your content. Same thing, right? You’re in front of my face all the time. I love it. <laugh>. And you do a lot of, I mean, we’re talking about being authentic and showing up that way all the time. 100% of the time. You talk so much about that <laugh>. Oh my gosh. And I absolutely love it because the way that you come across is so empowering when you speak this way and it’s a, it, it, it lifts me up when I see you pop up on my feet. Uh, was there a time, cuz it’s, I’m guessing anyways, that there might have been a time where you wouldn’t show up as your authentic self. And it might have 

Andrea Lowell:

Been, how long do we have it <laugh>? 

Andrea Lowell:

Oh my God, I didn’t even know who I was to show up authentically. Yeah. You know, I was living for society’s approval. I was looking for the approval of my producers, the networks, you know, when I used to be on Sirius xm, uh, the fans, I never really was in my own power. Which is why I talk about it so much now. And it is so important that I can give other women, specifically like energetic permission to be fearless, to show up as who you are because that’s our superpower. Like yeah, we might have similar beliefs and you know, we might have similar mindsets and perspectives, but no one can deliver the message the way any one of us can. No one has the exact same medicine to serve humanity that we do. It might be similar to other people’s, but it’s this certain dose that’s just so perfect. And if we don’t start spilling it, sharing it, then it’s almost lost. You know, Dr. Wayne Dyer said, Don’t die with your music inside of you. Whoa. And that hit me like a ton of bricks cuz I was like, you know what? I do have music inside of me. Not that I can sing, but it’s a metaphor, you know, like I have something very special inside me. I have this experience with being inauthentic. I have this experience with not being in my power, outsourcing all my power with being a people pleaser. And I have found the way out of that. I have to share that with people, in my opinion. That’s the purpose of life. Find your pain points and then transmute that into purpose. You can show others the path, whether that’s success or getting out of, you know, an abusive relationship for example, or overeating, whatever it is. We all have something we’ve overcome and the purpose is to show someone else how to overcome it. And I’m just so glad that I figured it out sooner than later. <laugh>. Yeah. Yeah. Because it was pretty miserable when I was super inauthentic. 

Rick Jordan:

Is this, uh, the time period, cuz I mean your bio, I write a little bit as we jumped into this right? Using your own despair in hopelessness. Is that around the same time period? 

Andrea Lowell:

Yeah, so I started working, um, in the entertainment industry pretty early. And I started working for Sirius XM specifically around 2006. And I did that for about 12, 13 years. And I just kept performing. I never showed up as Andrea, I showed up as a caricature of Andrea. The one I thought that everyone wanted me to be, you know, my co-host would be like, Oh yeah, that’s great. Do more of that. So I’m like, Okay, I’m gonna do more of that. My producer was like, Oh, do more of that. Okay, I’m gonna do more of that. And it was just in fact I was literally performing. So when we first started talking, we’re talking about, Oh, showing up and, and talking. And I would say, yeah, we talk for three hours a day, then I would just shut down. When you’re performing, it’s exhausting and you have to hermit afterward and cocoon and regenerate you. 

Andrea Lowell:

And I know that when you’re in flow and you’re on purpose and you’re having inspired conversations, you hang up that phone, you put that mic down and you can go run a mile, You’re like, I am so jazzed up on life. So that was one of the things too that I realized I am not doing what I should do. I’m not using my God given talents and abilities and passions in the right arena. Like clearly I love being on camera, I love talking, I love teaching. I love a microphone, but I’m talking about the most stupid things on earth on this morning show we’re talking about. But implants and, you know, uh, 

Rick Jordan:

Something really matters in life. Right. 

Andrea Lowell:

Exactly. Yeah. And I’d already gone through my spiritual awakening, the last like, like five years of this. And I’m just like, that’s when I felt that despair and that hopelessness because I wasn’t being honest with myself Yeah. About why I was staying in that job. I told myself, you know, I’m laughing all the way to the bank. I know that this is not a vibrational match to who I am or what my purpose is or where I reside, you know, vibrationally. Um, but I’m just gonna, I’m just gonna take him to the bank, is what I would tell myself. But then I’d go home every day absolutely exhausted and absolutely miserable. And I couldn’t understand why all my other friends were so happy. And yeah. Why did I have it all on paper? You know, I had the house, the car, everything, the v i p and I just was miserable. And my coping Rick, my coping mechanisms were not good. You know, excessive drinking, partying, uh, shopping, I mean you, anything that I could try to fill this spiritual size hole. Oh yeah. Um, but I kept filling it with material and, and alcohol and things like that, anything that wasn’t that substance. I had a God substance deficiency and I was trying to fill it with stuff and that was making me even more miserable. And so that’s the hopelessness and the despair because I remember sitting alone on my couch, not after night, and I didn’t have the humility or the courage to ask for help or admit that I was struggling internally. And finally I had to wake up and say, You’re lying to yourself. Yeah. Like, you are the problem. It’s not the show you’re on. It’s not that this, it’s that, it’s the fact that you’re telling yourself this narrative because you have some low key financial fear or this fear that you’re not gonna be able to find a job that’s like, that easy. You just talk to a mic for three hours. And, and that kept me there, it kept me trapped. And we know fear is a liar. 

Rick Jordan:

Yeah, it 

Andrea Lowell:

Is. So I just had, I had to get honest with myself and I had to say, You know what, that’s bs. You know, my higher power, who I choose as a false source or God or the universe didn’t bring me this far to bring me this far. Like this is not it. So that’s when I decided, you know what, I’m gonna change everything. And, uh, the show ended. I started working on dedicating my life to coaching and mentoring people. And the rest is history. I’m so happy now. And that hopelessness that I felt, you know, it’s not an exaggeration. I literally felt that there was no way out because I was relying on my thinking to solve a spiritual problem. So of course it’s hopeless because what’s between my ears will never solve a spiritual problem. And I just couldn’t figure it out with, you know, my intellect. And it was, it was, uh, mental anguish actually. Yeah. So that’s my story Rick <laugh>. Well 

Rick Jordan:

Thanks for diving so deep into that too. Cuz it, it was, I think it was just yesterday I was reading an article on, I think it was Buzzfeed. It was, you know, like 27 celebrities that walked away from acting and here’s their net worth today. And I’m taking a look through this and there were some individuals, I can’t remember all of them, you know, but Gene Hackman` was one, Right? I remember him because I remember seeing him as a kid, right? Because he was Lex Luther and Superman with Christopher Reeves, you know, in the first Superman movies. And he walked away from acting in the mid nineties or late nineties, something like that. And then he became an author and he’s been writing for 20, 25 years now. I mean, his net worth skyrocketed. But you see, that’s like, okay, there’s a success story, right? A dude pivoted, if you could call it that. But then I’m seeing these others who were in these big movies and now you see, it’s like their net worth is $500,000. Right. And they’re lawyers now, or they’re mm-hmm. <affirmative>. They’re a vet. They’re a veterinary doctor. I can’t remember. That was one I remember. I was like, Oh my gosh, that dude, I can’t remember the name of it. It was somebody that everybody would know. I wish I could remember these. 

 

Andrea Lowell:

They’re like, Really? You’re a vet now? Like, Yeah, 

Rick Jordan:

Exactly. And I’m, it’s like that person’s net worth was like $300,000 and it’s like, let’s be real. Right? Most homes in America cost more than those numbers that I just put out there, right? Yes. So, so, so a $300,000, a $500,000 net worth, I mean, it sounds like a lot when you see it, if you saw it all in cash right? Or sitting in your bank accounts. Yes. But really it’s not a lot because most people’s net worth is that already, you know? Cause even a million dollars is not a lot anymore, you know, but Right. If you own a house, even if you have a mortgage or whatever, especially after the last couple of years, you’re probably worth at least a couple hundred thousand dollars mm-hmm. <affirmative> in equity. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, it’s very possible. But for me to look through this and, you know, that was the point, right? Because it’s Buzzfeed, they’re looking for good, good headlines, <laugh>. And it caught me. It sucked me in. You know, you’ll be, but then I see them going from making all these millions to having a net worth as a vet, you know, of like 300 K. But I, I looked at that photo and I’m like, I bet he’s happy. Uh, and I was so inspired by, by this article, at seeing all these individuals that had the courage to walk away from something that was not serving them. That’s right. That would cause them to go into a lot of unhealthy coping, you know? And it’s awesome. Good for you. And it has me checking myself. It’s like, okay, what am I doing that I’m not supposed to be doing right now? Is there anything that I’m trying to cope with right now? Just because I feel like I might have these expectations of other people or other things, you know? Right. Situations, you know. And so far I haven’t come up with anything, which is good. Right. <laugh>, it’s pretty much woo how. Right. That’s good. But then it’s like, okay, but are there some areas where I could maybe shift some things and leverage my time better? And that’s been a focus I’ve had over the last couple of months, you know, is Yeah, 

Andrea Lowell:

For sure. All 

Rick Jordan:

Of us. Yeah. Not changing what I’m doing because I feel energetically aligned. But still, if that’s a, I mean, you’re inspiring me today and I saw that. I think it’s meant to be that we talked about that. Right. And then I saw the article yesterday, so Yes, that’s awesome. Way to go for walking away from, from Sirius XM and, and going into what you really want, because I betcha you get so much fulfillment from seeing the individuals grow that you coach. 

Andrea Lowell:

Oh my god, Rick. The vibrational contrast of when I would go to set every day and, you know, I’d get full hair and makeup cuz we would be cast on TV. And you know, even though I felt beautiful, I looked beautiful. I had the wardrobe and this and that. I would, I would, I was not good. I, it was like, yeah, I was this contracted lower consciousness version of myself. And then when I would go help people, even if it was just like helping a friend on the phone, it was so expansive and it was so joyous. And I’m like, Oh my God, is this what joy and inner peace feels like? Is this what, what purpose feels like? And I’m so glad that I had that contrast because I could know the difference of like, this is draining me and it’s not worth the, um, energetic currency exchange. Yeah. It’s not because I don’t care how much you’re paying me. Like if you’re gonna suck me dry and suck out my soul essence, make me walk on eggshells. I remember toward the end of my career on radio, I would have to bite my tongue not to say things that mattered. 

Rick Jordan:

Oh yeah. 

Andrea Lowell:

It was painful. Yep. Like, I’m like, Oh my God, keep it stupid. Keep it stupid. Keep it like, uh, oh, it was so painful. But when I would serve people, when I would show up and serve, when I would help someone, when I would open their eye to a blind spot about their, where they were putting their own energetic currency or their own attention on, or why they weren’t manifesting the life of their dreams or why they had horrible relationships or a core wound from their youth or their young adulthood. Like, you know, distorting their perspectives now, um, that joy, like I said, that energy it would give you where I’m like, Oh my God, should I go work out right now? Like I am Jed, I’m wired to feel that was exactly what I needed. And it was so, so beautiful to experience. And I always remember that because I get offered stuff, you know, still in the entertainment industry and I just politely decline. It’s not like what you and I do where we show up and we know we’re gonna be surrounded by people on the same mission as we are. Yeah. Yeah. We all have different purposes, but we know we’re all in alignment. Yep. Like <laugh>, we might have different perspectives on a few things, but we know that we are, we’re we’re being of service for the most part. For sure. 

Rick Jordan:

We’ve gotten good at being selective too, you know, and there’s a, it’s, I wish I had started being more selective earlier. 

Andrea Lowell:

Yeah, 

Rick Jordan:

Yeah. With individuals.

Andrea Lowell:

Didn’t know what we 

Rick Jordan:

Didn’t know exactly. Yeah. And that’s okay. I mean it’s, you start to feel those cringe moments when you, when you’re around. Yes. When you’re around people, it’s like, there’s something up with you. I don’t know what it is, but I don’t want to be around you. You know, when they’re just putting off the, a very different frequency than you, a very different vibration. And that’s something that you can feel. So everyone who’s listening pay attention to that. If you feel off, it’s probably because something is off. 

Andrea Lowell:

Oh my gosh. So I remember when I first started, you know, kind of going out on my own, you know, I’d quit entertainment. I’m trying to do the whole spiritual thing. I’m getting in with different, you know, pockets of networks and people and I was still a little bit insecure, right. And maybe I have some imposter syndrome. Can I do this? Like, can I really just go full out into coaching and mentorship and self nay and manifestation and da da da. Um, I remember connecting with this one gentleman and he kept saying all the right things as far as business partnership, but something in my stomach, like the pit of my stomach was like, Ugh. Yeah. Ugh. And I had never actually felt that before. And I remember thinking at that moment, eh, I just ignored that. You know, you can, you’re so smart. 

Andrea Lowell:

If something weird is up, you can just, you know, intellectually circumnavigate his weird stuff and <laugh>, no, I should not have ignored that nudge from within my solar plexus saying, Run for the hills. This guy’s a creep. And truth be told, um, it was not a good relationship. It was not advantageous. It turned into a completely distorted thing. And I use that as an example because now I know what that feels like. Yeah. And now I know that if I don’t listen to that, I will get burned. I wasted so much of my own personal time, lots of my energy on trying to make something work with someone who I was never meant to work with. And had I just listened to my own gut on that second time we met, I would’ve saved myself two years of bs. 

Rick Jordan:

Right on. And that’s really the thing, isn’t it? It’s a and I’ve been talking, I mean, we talked about leveraging our time, but even talking with my son the other week, I, I’m like, listen, it’s like all this stuff that you want, he’s 15, right? All this stuff you want to go after in life, that’s great. You know? But the one thing is, it is like if the only thing you can’t get back is that time. So if there’s something that doesn’t feel right that you don’t want to do, I mean, and he moved on from swimming at one point or whatever, but that’s the same thing. It’s like if I ever look back, I don’t ever regret any decisions that I made because of the lessons that I’ve learned. That’s right. Not one bit. The only thing that I, that I look back and I’m kind of like, eh, is the time that was lost <laugh> during those periods. I still have learning, but it’s like I can’t recoup the time. I can take the learnings and apply ’em to something else. And if I didn’t go through that, but maybe mm-hmm. <affirmative> those learnings, you know, if it was like a year’s time period that it took me to learn what I learned, maybe next time it can take me like a week. Okay. 

Andrea Lowell:

<laugh>. That’s the whole point. Yeah. I think that just really solidifies what you said. We have this time suck, we learn the lesson lesson, but the lesson is, and when you accept it and you grow from it and you’re like, okay, challenge, accept it. I’ve learned the lesson, I’m not gonna repeat the same mistakes. You probably just saved yourself years of wasted time in the future. So it wasn’t in vain. Right. It just 

Rick Jordan:

Sucks. It’s never in vain <laugh>, 

Andrea Lowell:

Right? No. Cause but the point is, you and I, when we make mistakes, we have no choice but to learn and grow from them. Like, I have no tolerance at this point in my life of repeating mistakes. It evolves or repeats. And I’m all about that upward spiral of personal evolution. You know, in my past, before I was awake, when I was living in that hopelessness and despair, I would make mistake after mistake. And the universe was like, Andrea, you’re not learning the lesson, so we’re gonna make it louder and harder and more painful. And I finally got it and now I’m like, nope, not playing that game. So now when the universe just whispers at me, I’m like, message received 

Rick Jordan:

Right here. Right. Yeah. I got you. No problem. <laugh> 

Andrea Lowell:

<laugh> not gonna go down that problem again. <laugh>, 

Rick Jordan:

What I hear is really, really faint, but I’ll, Okay, I’m gonna, Yes, please. 

Rick Jordan:

Wow. So you’ve got amazing stuff, right? You’ve got a blueprint, a blue, why can’t I say that word today? Blueprint for bliss <laugh>, right? Yeah. Which intrigues me that you help women a lot, right? And this is something that you created that suggestion of a client and tell me a little bit about this. And then I also want, you know, before we go, because I think everybody, I love actionable things like what they could do tomorrow. So when you see people that are like you, I also want to hear about like, what’s the first thing you tell them to do <laugh>. Yeah. Cause it, 

Andrea Lowell:

Okay, that’s such a good question because I actually have been asked this question kind of a lot lately and it had never been asked before. So this, you’re tapping into that collective need brick. Yeah. Do people need to know where to start? So the blueprint, I’ll kind of take you through it. Um, and it’s designed because this is what I found works 100% of the time with everyone when I take ’em through this way. So for people listening, um, you can follow this advice and start to delve, um, into these lines of research and these lines of self practice. Because what I coach is self mastery and through self mastery you achieve, you know, the most epic, awesome aligned manifestations without even trying cuz your frequency is so clean cuz you’ve got rid of all the crap. So I start by teaching my clients the truth about the quantum reality in which we live. 

Andrea Lowell:

And if we don’t know frequencies, if we don’t understand that everything is energy and intention vibrating it, different speeds and uh, resonances, then we won’t know how to harmonize with it. So I go into some, a deep dive, but a kinda layman deep dive. I don’t wanna lose anyone, um, on quantum mechanics and just kind of get them, uh, strength to know the subatomic chaos and how that works and how we can harmonize with it through universal law, specifically karma and gratitude. So a lot of people that are just starting out in their journey, um, I might suggest watching something like what the bleep do we really know? A documentary from like 2003? They got me really interested in quantum theory. Um, and then I would say learn about the frequency of gratitude. You know, gratitude is this really big word that it’s a, it’s in therapy, it’s in spiritual groups, it’s in memes, but no one’s explaining why it works. Yeah. Why it works is cuz it’s the highest frequency and you know, cuz you’re super grateful, it’s the highest frequency. Same as unconditional love. So if I am focusing on being grateful all day, every day, of course I’m gonna call in a magical life. And it’s okay if we have a bad day, a bad day doesn’t, you know, negate or overpower your default, um, frequency. So what we try to do is get our default frequency to gratitude. So that’s where we start. And the next thing we do is we get rigorously self honest. So this is step two in a seven part blueprint where I got a look at me, remember I told you I woke up when I realized I was lying to myself. 

Rick Jordan:

Yeah, yeah. 

Andrea Lowell:

So I gotta show my clients anywhere where they might be lying to themself, um, um, where they, 

Rick Jordan:

Oh, you get to be that person. I love it <laugh>. I 

Andrea Lowell:

I love it too. Yeah. I do it super objectively. I’m like, everyone’s big cis. Like I’m not mean or judgmental. I can’t be mean or judgmental because I know the crazy thoughts and actions I took when I was in denial. So why would I judge anyone for their crazy thoughts are actions For 

Rick Jordan:

Sure. And it’s, it’s such a different place too because, and this is, this is key, I’m sure it is, is when they’re at this point in your blueprint with you, they’re already wanting to make that change. And that’s a huge prerequisite. It’s a requirement to actually being able to accept or even ask the question, Hey, where am I lying to myself 

Andrea Lowell:

1000%? And my clients always say to me, Thank you so much for showing me my blind spas. Yeah. I’m like, that’s what I’m here to do. This is what you agreed energetically when we signed up to work with each other, you know, in the Im everything projects what I’m really talking about that that’s what we’re doing. So thank you for allowing me to shine the light on it and being willing to do the work. So we start looking at that and we start to see where these low key frequencies of self doubt, shame, lack, guilt, judgment, resentment are shooting out. But like, we don’t even know, you know what I’m saying? Like, we don’t know. We’re walking around shooting out these negative frequencies. So we wonder why our life sucks or why when we are consciously manifesting, nothing’s happening because if I don’t know, I’m shooting out this, but I’m trying to shoot this out, nothing’s coming. 

Andrea Lowell:

It doesn’t. So we have to get on that vibrational match. The third part will rid ourselves of the carmic sludge and the grime and the stuff that’s holding us down. So the second part was we identified it, The third part is we get rid of it. And this is where we have to really cultivate a super awesome relationship with a power greater than ourselves. So I always have my clients, you know, identify who or what that is, is it God? Is it the universe? Is it a source? Is it your ancestors? Is it nature or whatever works for you? Let’s start because I, it just can’t be your brain. Like your brain can’t be your higher power. Your brain is like your computing system, but it’s not God. You know, and I mentioned that because 

Rick Jordan:

Like, I hope not <laugh>

Andrea Lowell:

I know if this is God, we are all screwed because my thoughts, 

Andrea Lowell:

Oh, but I say that we have to cultivate that because if I think I’m doing this thing alone or I don’t have anyone to turn over these negative thoughts or behaviors too, it’s gonna be really isolating. It’s gonna be really frustrating. Yeah. So then we need to really radically improve our self worth by looking at what we value and looking at where we put our energetic currency. Am I working, am I trying to impress people with what I do with my cash for example? Or am I doing what lights me up? You know, like how we are talking about having to wear a suit on TV or showing up authentically, are you right? Yep. You can afford to wear a suit every day, but I’m wearing a t-shirt <laugh>. So it’s like who are we doing things for? And once we are realizing who we’re operating for, then we can jump into part five, which is a masterful manifestation. So everyone they wanna do manifests step one of the blueprint, guess what? I want to keep adding people to my hundred percent success rate so that I can’t put manifests in there. Yep. So we get clear and then we go into abundance and lifetime integration. So that’s the blueprint of the I Am Everything project. And that’s what I do. 

Rick Jordan:

I love it. I absolutely love it. Thank you. And that’s where everybody can follow you too is the I am Everything project. 

Andrea Lowell:

Yeah. On Instagram’s where I am all the time. For sure. 

Rick Jordan:

Right on. So go there, follow Andrea because she’s freaking fire for real <laugh>. That’s it. Mm-hmm. <affirmative>, but what do you have next? Right? Cause we’ve gotta say, hey, well you’ve got your blueprint, right? That’s, uh, everyone can connect with you there for coaching I would assume. Yeah, 

Andrea Lowell:

Yeah, absolutely. In my link tree, in my bio, um, sign 

Rick Jordan:

Today. 

Andrea Lowell:

Yeah. I mean you could, you can find all this stuff there, but I always have ongoing retreats. I’m always doing workshops basically. Uh, if you go on my link tree, you can sign up for my mailing list just to stay on top of things. I’m never not offering something. I just, I’m here to serve. Like I’ve totally, I’m like, this is what, you know, my higher power put me on this earth plane to do. Help people step into the highest version of themselves, create this dream life that they didn’t even know that they wanted, you know? Um, and that’s why I’m here. So that’s what I do. I just, I can’t stop showing up to serve Rick <laugh> 

Rick Jordan:

Sweet. Thank you for giving us just so much today. It’s been amazing. You’ve lifted me up and thanks for the color purple in the background too. It’s my favorite color. Appreciate that. 

Andrea Lowell:

I love it. It’s matching your little neon sign back there. So we’re twinning. Yeah. 

Rick Jordan:

Andrea, thank you. Have an amazing day. Appreciate you. 

Andrea Lowell:

Likewise Rick.