Psychology Says

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• Self-help books really are psychology
• Psychology figures people out
• Why you shouldn’t overshare
• Why privacy is something that should only pertain to you

What’s shakin’? Hey, I’m Rick Jordan. Today, we’re going all in. Psychology says a lot of things. psychology says like, oh, Confucius says, I don’t even understand that phrase. Have you ever heard that phrase before? It’s I don’t even know what it means. I mean, Confucius was a dude. But anyways, psychology says, I love psychology. I absolutely love it. Because there are a lot of things that have been studied and proven over the years. And it gives you insight into how people think. And it’s just freaking awesome. Even better when I say insight into how people think so you can relate and react and act. Just get along with people in the world. One reason I really, really love psychology is because it actually gives me more information, about how I think, and I’m able to dive into what’s going on in my head, and sometimes the craziness that’s there, in order to correct a thought process. Because, I mean, when we’re born in this world, we’ve had no traumas at that point we haven’t been talked down to we haven’t been yelled at haven’t been hit, haven’t gone through a toxic relationship, haven’t had anyone close to us pass away. 

There are all these things that we haven’t experienced yet. So it’s like when we’re in that perfect state when we’re born, you know, and there are certain things right studies, obviously, that that are out there, I’m gonna get all the people that are like, no, wait, you know, babies can hear things in the womb, of course, they can. That’s, that’s not my point. So stay with me here track with me, don’t dive into stupid stuff. That I’m not saying all right. So psychology says a lot of things. And it helps you understand yourself and helps you dive into more of your subconscious. And really the reason why you’re wired the way that you’re wired. That’s why there are these books, and an entire category called self-help. Self Help is nothing more than psychology. That’s it. You know, a lot of people that write these kinds of books, like myself are untrained in psychology, but probably unlike myself, a lot of others probably don’t dive deep into the studies before they write the books, I dive deep into the studies, and I love it. And there are some of my favorite things that I’m gonna share with you today. That actually will make sense. And after you’re done hearing all this stuff, you’ll be able to feel better now, as you move forward about these because it’s just gonna be like a burden that’s lifted off you when you start to recognize some of these things, and change some of your thought patterns. 

Alright, so psychology does say this, right? This is the first time it’s I don’t overshare we have this propensity, right to actually say too much to people about what’s going on in our lives, you know, we start to tell them certain things. But there’s a reason why we overshare. And I’ll get to that in a second here. But when we get excited about something, we want to share something super awesome that’s going on in our life with people that are closest to really anybody like screaming from a mountaintop, how good things are going, how awesome stuff is something you just accomplished? You absolutely should celebrate those things, by all means, right? But here’s the thing, a lot of people will overshare because they’re looking for some kind of validation for other people. And that’s a bad gig. Privacy is power, everyone, people cannot ruin what they don’t know. Because if you’re doing this out of a good reason, when you’re sharing something out of excitement and all that, or even if it’s out of excitement, and you might get a backlash from somebody be like okay, whatever be like, Well, I don’t like that. Or, you know, what would I do? You know, and when I do something like this, that’s great that you’re going to get some help for yourself. But when I do something like this, you know, and all I want to do is just go down deeper, darker into my hole, because it makes me think more about the stuff and then all of a sudden, you’re like, Oh, why don’t even open my mouth. Exactly. Why did you even open your mouth? 

There are certain things and you have to start to recognize this. Because when you put energy into people, this has to do with when you start to recognize a circle that’s around you and be aware of the people who are around you. If there are individuals that are already negative, don’t freak out and say a word to them, come on now. that privacy is your power, keep your power and retain that privacy. That way they can’t ruin what they don’t know. They don’t know what you did to achieve that. They don’t know what your vision what your dreams are, or what you’re going after in life. And when you’re doing that and sharing that all that does is like hold up the mirror to them so of course they’re going to try to tear you down. You need safe people to share some super cool shit with Okay, safe people. The Unsafe people stop talking right here them hold space for them. But for you don’t send it back the other way. Don’t let them ruin what they don’t know. Right another thing is, and this one’s huge for me. I’ve been starting to preach this one for like the last six months or so because it’s so valid. You know and when I look at this stuff, too when I started to coach in and train people around me in this way. And when it starts to work its way into the show here. It’s really because I’ve been already working on this myself for the past six to 12 months. I want you to know that because there’s nothing that I bring up on the show that I haven’t been working out on myself for the past eons, right for years. This is all stuff that I’ve been going through. It’s not a new concept to me. It’s not they’re not novel to me, they might be to you. 

But it’s things that I’ve gone through it already. I mean, even with like a tax program, I just did the ERC program. Before I started recommending it to other people, I wanted to go through it myself to make sure it was legit. I care about the value of information and truth that I bring to people. So when I say this stuff to you, you have to understand that I’ve already worked through this. I’ve already tried it, it’s already been tested by me. I’m not, I’m only always going to tell you something that’s actually worth hearing. Oh, this one has been resonating with me, in the past recent months don’t take everyone personally, or don’t take everything personally, even everyone. This is kind of blunt, but not everybody thinks about you all the time. Okay, they might just be thinking about getting the job done. They might just be thinking about if it’s your partner with your kids just trying to provide for the kids or do something for them or whatever, right? Nobody thinks about you as much as you do. That’s just a fact. And this was like a hard-hitting one for me. And it’s relieving. It’s kind of humorous to do right if you want to take offense to it, whatever. I don’t freaking care. Why? Because you’re taking it personally right now. Ha, gotcha. 

Not everybody thinks about you as much as you think that they do. And especially not as much as you think about yourself. When you stopped taking everything personally, you will find yourself more productive, you will find yourself more successful, you will find yourself more energetic, and you will be happier. I like that. This next one here that psychology says and this is like ages of studies. Tony Robbins even phrases this in a great way. But what psychology says is when you focus on your problems, you’re going to have more problems. When you focus on your solution, all you’ll see is opportunities. Right? When you are when you focus on bad shit, all you’re gonna see is more bad shit when you focus on good shit, you’re gonna see more good shit. Tony Robbins says it like this. It’s very simple. What you focus on grows. So if you focus on the bad, the bad is going to continue growing even worse, exponentially worse. It’s going to become the spiral of death that you’re going to fall into. And then you’re going to think why am I even alive because I got all this bad should happen. But when you focus on the good stuff, and this is why gratitude is so important when you set your frame at the beginning of the day with gratitude. And when you set your frame before you go to bed with gratitude. 

Even if you had one of the worst days ever, you can always find one thing, we used to have a segment on the show called one thing. You can always look back at your day and find at least one thing that you can be grateful for, no matter how bad it seems like it is. And when you focus on those good things that you are grateful for, you will start to see more good things that you can be grateful for. And all of a sudden, the bad stuff. It’s like magic. It just works itself out. No, really. But when you focus on the good things, you start to recognize that hey, I have more resources. So I can handle this stuff. Hey, I actually have people around me that support me, because I’m grateful for these specific people in my life. Oh, now I can go tackle this bad stuff. Oh, you know what? I’ve got these other things going on. I’ve got these opportunities that just came up. You know what that’s looking towards the future. I have a future. I’m grateful I have a future. Oh, that bad stuff doesn’t seem so bad anymore. I think it’s just going to work itself out. See how that works. That’s exactly how that works. There’s a lot more of these things. But that wasn’t what I wanted to end with today because it’s so important to have gratitude. And that sets the frame for all of these things. All of these things that I talked about today because psychology says

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