The Margarita of Life: Sipping Authenticity with Dain Heer

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Episode Topics:

• Discover the power of being authentic and breaking free from judgment.
• Learn from Dain Heer, a global personal development leader.
• Dive into the essence of “Body Whispering” and its transformative insights.
• Enjoy a light-hearted discussion on the art of making the perfect margarita.
• Empower yourself to be true to who you are and attract the right people into your life.

 

Rick Jordan  

Hey, what’s shakin, hey, I’m Rick Jordan. Today, we’re going all in. Today we’re going to be talking about some good ways to be you and not let other people minimize you some things about abuse, and really tapping into who you are. And I’m excited because my guess is just amazing. Before we dive into this today, I want to ask you to share this with at least three people because I know a lot are struggling with this topic. And we don’t promote we don’t take sponsors, the only way we grow and impact more people is because now we’re top 20 in several countries, which is freaking awesome in entrepreneurship. And today, this episode is for everybody. My guest is the CO creator of Access Consciousness, one of the largest personal development companies in 176 countries. Founder of International Being You Day which is May 22. That’s in a few months, an author of body whispering a new way of being seeing and hearing and on top of that, he makes a damn good Margarita. Dain here, welcome to the show.

 

Dain Heer  

Rick, thanks for having me.

 

Rick Jordan  

I love it. You know, I love that little tidbit about the good Margarita. It isn’t a good Margarita. Start with the good tequila, what do you usually use?

 

Dain Heer  

I actually either Don Julio Reposado or Clase Azul. reposado.

 

Rick Jordan  

Oh, you’re going all the way up to Clase Azul? Yeah.

 

Dain Heer  

Yeah. And mostly like, don’t put that into Margarita. I’m like, wait to try.

 

Rick Jordan  

No joke. Oh my gosh. So the Rosado you tell you’re not talking the 1942. Right. You’re just talking like the 50-ish dollar bottle. But then, all the way up to the classes. Xul. If you’re top shelf, that’s incredible. Yes, I love

 

Dain Heer  

you know, it’s wonderful because people drink it. And they’re like, oh, there’s nothing in it until after three of them and they can’t feel their lips anymore.

 

Rick Jordan  

So no joke. I love it. I’m a big fan of tequila, too. Everyone on the show knows that. I’m a big fan of scotch. But I also get into sipping tequilas and classes Oh, the Rosado was one of my favorites. A couple of weeks ago and an event I was celebrating with my team and we had the classes. Classes will altra and Yeah, whoa, it’s like a $4,000 bottle. And is amazing, man. It was just like, it’s not even butter. It’s more like honey, you know, going down it just Chromoly

 

Dain Heer  

I’ve had a bottle. And may I and I think I do literally mean a bottle. And it has Yep, I’m with you. One of the best

 

Rick Jordan  

right on. And I know this isn’t what this show is about. But I like these little tangents too because it’s those types of things. And it ties back to a life lesson I’ve learned is that cheap. Alcohol is nothing good for life because life is too short to have that alcohol.

 

Dain Heer  

A true story that life is too short for bad alcohol and crappy people.

 

Rick Jordan  

Bingo. I love that for sure, dude. So today we’re going to talk about some really really cool things that I know, hit home for me, you know, because I’ve done a lot of self-development work, and I can’t wait to hear your take on a lot of these things. Because I love seeing people break out of their shells, man, I love seeing people get to the point where they’re saying enough is enough. I’m not gonna please the people around me, I’m just gonna be me and the right people will go away in my life and the right people will come into my life. So how does it tie into what you’re doing with Access Consciousness? And dude, your book, you know, body whispering? I’m excited dude.

 

Dain Heer  

Cool. Well, that, you know, that’s also my point of view is it’s like, a lot of people will not make a change or choose what actually works because they’re afraid of the people that they might lose, they never look at the people they might gain. And similar, they’re afraid of the things they might lose, not the things they could gain. And so it keeps a lot of people stuck, you know. And so the thing is, anytime we function from the judgment of any time we function from judgment, we’re functioning from something that’s less than what we could choose. And you know, I do this work called Access Consciousness. And we actually have a definition of consciousness, which is where everything exists, and nothing is judged. And it’s when we can get out of the judgment of self first, that we start to actually see all kinds of possibilities we never saw before. And we stopped holding ourselves back and it gets easier, a lot easier, and a lot more fun to move forward.

 

Rick Jordan  

That’s incredible. There’s, we’ve talked about mindset shifts a lot on the show, but there’s something that you said that none of my guests in 200 episodes have ever said, in what you just talked about. Yeah, cuz, I mean, we talked about right, the people that you might lose, and then you’re like, hey, focus on the ones you might gain. But you went further than that, man. You said something about things, the things you might lose versus the things you might gain. You know, can you dive into that a little more because people are a little bit more tangible, right, but are you talking like things in your environment like a house like a specific job, or something like that? thought that you could lose or could gain.

 

Dain Heer  

Yeah, all of that. And I think one of the easiest things to look at as a job because what we do is we tend to, we tend to look at something from the place of this is the only source where I can get this. And I, you know, I may not like my job, I may not really be happy going there, but at least it pays the bills. You know, I may hate my life every moment I’m there, but at least it pays the bills. And so they’re looking at the sort of base need that can be fulfilled, rather than what are the possibilities I’ve never considered? You know, and one question I suggest that people ask is, what else is possible here that I’ve never considered? Anytime you come up with a decision, a judgment, or a conclusion about something, like I need this job to survive, or, or there’s the best I can get, that’s all you can see. Because your point of view creates your reality. And so when you ask a question, something else can then open up, you know, a question is basically the this secret doorway to, to the universe providing all kinds of other things. And it goes directly contrary to what we’ve all been taught, because we’ve all been taught, to get the right answer, and everything will work. Except there are a lot of us who have a lot of answers. And things are not working the way we know that could and should. So we have to be willing to ask a question, which allows a different possibility, a different doorway to open up,

 

Rick Jordan  

Man, I just posted I do these thoughts of the day, typically on Instagram, and this was maybe last week sometime, I was in the middle of a call with somebody and you know how like, Good shit just comes out of your mouth every now and then just wrote it down after I got like, Man, that was good. I gotta post that, you know, but it was along these lines that, you know, when I started asking the questions, is when the right people showed up in my life, that you know, it wasn’t the answers, dude. Because you’re right. I mean, look at frickin Instagram, look at anything, there’s coaches and, and experts and air quotes for those who are just listening on audio, that are all around and plethora that keep giving you all the answers. Right? So let’s approach it from this today. You got me excited, Dane, this is awesome. And what are some of the right questions to ask? Because if you’re stuck on these things, from my perspective, I’m feeling that the things can actually be what ends up keeping you stuck to the job to the person to the lifestyle, or whatever, because that’s your environment, right? It’s like the things and then it’s like everyone else is or all those other like the job and the the the people you know, relationships, whatever, are sort of like an orbit, right? Because you like you like the house you like the car that you have you like the money that’s coming in to fulfill the basic needs? What are the questions that you can see that get you unstuck,

 

Dain Heer  

so got a lot of them. So let’s just give a few. One is the one I already mentioned, which is what else is possible here that I’ve never considered. Another one is what’s right about this or what’s right about me that I’m not getting. And what that does is it takes you out of you know, if you’re in one of those times, like we all get into where you’re feeling like a pile of crap, you know, feeling wrong for whatever you go, it’s right about me I’m not getting it opens a door to look from a different perspective, change the perspective which allows you to change the reality going forward. Another one is how it gets any better than this. You ask it when something good happens. And it can actually get better. Because most people have something good happen. And they’re like, oh, cool, I’m done. You don’t have to be done. Maybe you’re on a roll. Maybe this is step one of 1000 of great things happening, you know? So if you ask how does it get any better than this? Things can get greater. When something bad happens? You ask how does it get any better than this? And it can improve the situation. And it really is reorienting our perspective from having the conclusion of what is or asking a question about what actually could be. And we want to ask open-ended questions because that’s the point at which the world around us can actually look and show us something that we haven’t defined yet that we haven’t been able to even know as possible yet. But if I’ve learned anything in the last 21 years because 21 years ago is at a place where it’s going to end my life. And I had planned a date for it. And I had a session on Access Consciousness. Literally, an hour and 15 minutes later, I was walking out of there with a sense of gratitude for being alive. And I was like, wow, it feels this way to be alive I’m in. But what got me to that place was all of the conclusions that I had. Because all of the things and all the people in my life were this sort of stuck thing where I was just so bored, but also in such a level of self-judgment. And what I realized was I didn’t see the possibilities and so When we ask a question, it actually allows us to begin to see possibilities rather than just problems. And that’s a really refreshing place from which to live.

 

Rick Jordan  

You’ve got me all filled up today, man because I’m almost thinking, like, I’ve got myself and some key employees that work for me that I want to have a session, you know, something like this. I do a lot of things already. But it’s, I love gifting these things to people that are close to me, that helped build with me, in order to, you know, remove all the junk and the traumas, because then we can all level up together, man, how does somebody access something like this, you know, like, an Access Consciousness session,

 

Dain Heer  

you can go to my website, which is Dr. Dain, here.com. And here’s the beauty of it, Rick, from my point of view, we have over 10,000 facilitators around the world. And so you can go to access consciousness.com, and look for finding a facilitator and see somebody, either somebody who’s, who’s near you, or, you know, at this point, we’re able to do all so much of this via zoom or some other online format, but what you want to look for is somebody who, when you look at him, you kind of get like, ah, you know, you kind of relax, because the other thing that really is, is a dynamic part of, of this journey of getting more aware, is the awareness that we know, we’re not we can’t necessarily define something, but we know. And something that’s true for us will always make us lighter. Something that’s a lie, something that’s not going to work is always going to make us heavier when we think about doing it. And yet, we’ve been taught that we need to go into those heavy things and change them somehow and make them light. So if you’re looking for a facilitator for a session, for example, go to access consciousness.com Look up the list of facilitators, and scroll through until you find somebody where you go, ah, that, and that peace in that relaxation is actually our indication of what’s going to work for us. And it’s 180 degrees from what most people think they need to head toward, they think they need to head toward the suffering and conquer it. I’m saying head toward the lightness head toward the joy and enjoy it.

 

Rick Jordan  

Wow, man, how does something like this compare to like a traditional counselor or therapist?

 

Dain Heer  

It’s interesting because we actually have a lot of counselors and therapists who use Access Consciousness tools. And our point of view is that, like, use these and add these to your practice. And one of the ways in which it differs dynamically, though, is it’s about the client. And it’s about empowering the client to know that they know and not about here, I have your answer. Let me talk down to you or let me talk at you. It lets me ask you questions so that you can get to what you’re aware of. And then we also have a dynamic set of tools, which allow people to go back to the point of wherever the limitation they’re functioning from started, or wherever they killed a possibility and can’t seem to resurrect it, and change it in a really quick amount of time by going back to that point of creation.

 

Rick Jordan  

That’s incredible. Man, is this somewhat based on NLP? And what you know, it’s totally different. So how does that? What’s the difference between those?

 

Dain Heer  

Well, here’s the thing I used to do NLP before I did access. And I loved it thought it was phenomenal. Sort of, I saw it as sort of one of the biggest advances in personal development that I had ever experienced, at least. And I also loved it, it was so mental, like, there were so many things, you’re like, Dude, you can change it, oh, you twist this, you turn this, you visualize this, you know, I used to love it. And what access is about is, is it’s about the energy that let’s let’s just say the if we look at the energetics of things, it’s about being able to have a really fast way of changing it without even having to cognitive it necessarily. And so it’s based on the idea that each of us does know, each of us has awareness. And it’s only when we cut off our knowledge or our awareness that we create difficulty. So this is about accessing your knowing, accessing the awareness that you know, and have always known. And now what is it that you know, but also from that, what else can you choose? And we have this thing called a clearing statement, which is probably beyond the scope of our conversation today. But for me, I consider it basically the biggest upgrade in personal development since there’s been personal development because you can literally get a sense of something being off and just go everything that is I now destroy it, I now let it go. And then use this clearing statement thing and it starts moving and you can the other interesting part to me, because I’d never experienced this before access was that you can actually sense when things are changing. Wow. And you kind of go you go on this journey and you’re like whoa, shit happening, okay, you know

 

Rick Jordan  

have that awareness of that process that is incredible, that’s probably what keeps you going. I know we delve into the weeds a little bit there. But everyone listening to NLP is neurolinguistic programming. And it’s it’s some cool stuff, you know, but what I’m hearing from Dane today is almost like it’s next level. And I like how you’re explaining this, to where it’s diving into the things and almost like removing the veil to it, this is what I’m hearing anyways, from what you’re saying is almost removing the veil, so you can actually pay attention to what you already know. And then to be able to make a choice. So it’s a, it’s like, deep down and I do I believe this man, that deep down, we all know what we know. And we all know what the right choice is. For us. We all know the situations that we’re in, we all know what changes have to be made. We just can’t see through our own muck in order to actually access that, you know, and that’s, that’s been one of the biggest barriers that I’ve encountered, you know, which I took care of, I feel a couple of years ago might have been fricking overnight with Access Consciousness. It sounds like it took a lot of months, a lot of years to get to that point for me. But once you realize it, it’s well, I don’t know if it’s realized that’s probably not the right word, is it? It’s probably more like cognitively paying attention to now. What, you know, is that more accurate?

 

Dain Heer  

Well, I would here’s the interesting part for me. Well, number one, can I just say one thing? Yeah, please. And based on what you said, which is Make no mistake about it with Access Consciousness, also, you also have to do the work. But the rewards of the work are unlike anything I’ve ever seen. And I have done a lot of other things. So I want to point that out because some people are looking for the magical fix the quick fix, friggin magical, but you still got to be willing to do it. You know, you got to you got to be willing to walk the walk.

 

Rick Jordan  

That’s what we call it. Right?

 

Dain Heer  

Yeah, yeah. So. So the other part says speak to cognitive, here’s the interesting part we have this idea that if we are awake, then we’re conscious, and that our cognition is actually our consciousness, and also, to a certain extent, our gift to the world. Well, what I found is our cognitive mind, is far less than we the beings are. In other words, our mind is basically a big friggin computer that’s got every experience you’ve ever had. And it’s already been tagged as right or wrong, good or bad. This is one of the primary things that prevent us from something new because anything new, it doesn’t understand, it automatically goes no, avoid that. That must be bad because I haven’t processed it yet. And so what access does it actually go beyond your mind? And are we have a saying and access if you’re thinking You’re stinking, and, you know, which is just a way of pattern interrupt, you know, to get people to look from a different place, which is the acknowledgment that, yes, you do the cognitive, like the cognitive awareness, cognitive choice, but recognize that the true choice you have goes beyond cognitive, and often can’t be defined. And so if we give people though, a reference point and an awareness for making choices that’s beyond cognitive, what it does, it starts to, it starts to be heading in the direction of those choices that once again, kind of settle into your world. And you’re like, oh, that, like, it just feels right. It just feels like you know, I

 

Rick Jordan  

was like getting out of your head and getting into your heart to dumb it down. Yeah. Yeah, that not even dumbing it down. I mean, that’s more like up-leveling it right, getting out of your out of your head and getting into your heart. That’s where you truly know things anyways, isn’t it man, like at the center of being?

 

Dain Heer  

Absolutely. And that’s really what this is about your Bing. And, you know, Bing seems like such an esoteric concept. But it’s so simple. It’s exactly what you just said, you know, and that’s also why I created international being your day because I wanted people to be able to gather and experience what it’s like to be them, beyond judgment, be inspired by other people who are just friggin awesome. And you hear their stories or hear what they’ve gone through. And you’re just like, Yes, I can do it, too, you know. And so the international being eBay is is a free thing. It’s my gift access is gift to the world. And last year was its inaugural year, but it’s really about exactly what you just said, and actually living there. And that’s, that’s one of the other differences I see with access is that so many of the things I did at least because I’m a seeker, I’m a weirdo, I always knew something else as possible. You know, I did everything I could find before this. And it would be great while I was in the classroom, or while I was in a session, or while it was in meditation, or whatever it was that I was doing at the time, but It didn’t have the tools to change things in the trenches of life. It never made an acknowledgment for it, here I am, and I really want to kill this person help, you know, like, it’s like, we got stuff that goes on, you know, and in everything else I’ve ever seen, it’s like, tried to pretend that that doesn’t go on. And therefore, you know, the idea where if you know, let’s say you’re a parent, you have kids, and you’re like, I want to throw them in the band, you know, it’s like, you know, there’s no freedom. If you can’t acknowledge that you are capable of in part of this life experience on all levels, then it’s a really tough thing to be able to go, Hey, I’m gonna change this, I’m going to do something different. Because you can’t even acknowledge where you are because you think you’re wrong, because nobody else experiences it.

 

Rick Jordan  

Wow, wow, that’s hardcore man. So the place that keeps you stuck really is just you? Yeah, that. Oh, that again, that again. Going back to that heart space, there’s a, I don’t know, if you want to call it a meme or a quote or whatever that I’ve been seeing across social media the past couple of weeks, it keeps popping up. And I love it when this happens. Because if you see the same thing, multiple times, I feel like it’s something and maybe just for our show today. And maybe for me, you know, personally, but this phrase was the biggest battle that I ever fought was between what I knew and what I felt. How does that resonate with you, man?

 

Dain Heer  

Well, for me that is sort of the quintessential idea that you know, and you know, things that your mind cannot fathom. And yet, we’ve been taught how I feel about this. And that’s a bit of a sticky slope, unless you have time to explain it. But we’ve been taught that, that our feeling about it our gut, well, not our gut feeling, we’ve been taught that our feeling about whatever that is, is more valid than our awareness. And so from my point of view, I’ve looked at thoughts and feelings and emotions, and realized that there’s sort of a bit of a lower harmonic of what we could actually function from, which is perceiving, knowing, being, and receiving, which is, which really, up levels the game, if you’re looking from the place of what is it I’m aware of here? What do I perceive? What do I actually know about this? Not what thinking is come into existence, because you can know things you’ve never been taught, you can know things that you’ve never experienced before, and you just do No, yet thinking is always a calculation and a computation based on previous experience, but also based on other people’s points of view. And so what the idea is, then, as the being that you are, you know, one of the things we talked about an access is you’re an infinite being. And that’s, that can be like, Whoa, you know, people go what, all I’m saying is, we got more going on than we think we do, basically. But if we’ll allow ourselves to acknowledge, there’s something else that I’ve got an awareness of, there’s something else I’m capable of, we start to change their trajectory of how we look at things in each moment. And if we start to do that thing of choose what makes you lighter, stop choosing what makes you heavier, what happens is, the more things you choose that make you light and that’s your knowing, showing up, the more things you choose that make you light, the lighter your life gets over time. And, you know, it’s not rocket science. I mean, if if I would love it, if people listening just took that away. Yeah, you know, and like, let’s say you’re going down to a really horrendous internet, black hole of stuff, you know, as is so available nowadays. If you’re getting really heavy, not lightening up at all, even though you’re looking for some answer in a video or an article or something, stop, and go on to something else. Go watch videos of kittens, go watch inspirational, you know something that makes you lighter and happier. That’s one of the dynamic choices we have that if we just if we just institute that we start to have a different space to function. And then what happens is what shows up takes on a different quality because when you’re in a crappy mood, everything looks crappy. You’re looking through crappy eyes, you know, but when you’re in an awesome mode, everything looks greater lighter and easier. And that’s really when we’re being us.

 

Rick Jordan  

Man, that’s beautiful that you just like bookended everything we talked about dude, it’s been nominal. One last question for you because I think this is awesome too. Because I don’t know if we can dive into this more. First, you have a book Body Whispering a new way of being seen and healing. That’s awesome. That’s available on Amazon. Right? I’m assuming pretty beautiful. as we close this out today Last year, you said was your Inaugural Day right for being your day. What do you do to celebrate?

 

Dain Heer  

Oh, number one, I am seen that day. And it also happens to be my birthday. And I thought that was the greatest birthday present in the world. And then I went out for a very nice dinner with my girlfriend and had some friends around. And we celebrated the beauty there. It was like it was, I don’t know how to put words to this. It was as though in these, whatever seven or eight hours that this day was, and we had people on from around the world, it was an online event because of, you know, current times. And we got together. And it was like, having drinks with friends is one thing. This was like having drinks with fellow world changers that were where we just celebrated the gift of what was available for 1000s of people around the world. And that’s how I celebrated.

 

Rick Jordan  

That’s awesome, man. I’m going to a party on that day. I think coming up on May 22. That’s coming. Yes. And I’ll text you and say happy birthday because I’m assuming it’s the same day right? Historic sweet. That’s awesome. We like Dude, I’m glad you were born. Be you today because I’m going to be me. Dude. Thank you for coming out. I mean, you can find your facebook.com/dr Dain here and on Instagram at Dane here. That’s dai N H E R for those who are listening and watching. Man, thank you for such an incredible conversation today. It’s been awesome. And the ping pong back and forth here.

 

Dain Heer  

Greg, it’s truly been a pleasure. Thank you so much.