What You Look for is What You Find

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• Breaking the pattern
• Stop looking for the bad within the good
• When you really search for something
• Create your safe space
• Work out your own brain

What’s shakin’! Good to have you back, cuz today we’re going ALL IN today. We’re gonna talk about intention and what you look for in life, what you look for and really anything. And this is something you’re gonna wanna share with three people too, because I think it’ll help you in a lot of ways. And, and everybody else that you share this with everybody that you interact with, and I know that it will, because I know that this is information and, uh, just thoughts and, and just encouragement that people need to hear. All right, because I’m gonna give you some, some hardcore steps today on how to look for the best things in your life. You are with me. Yeah. I know you are. Uh, have you ever seen an individual? Like, and you’re like, man, have you heard the phrase? It’s like, they’re always looking for trouble. 

Right? But that, that’s such a, it’s a phrase that’s been used for people that, you know, might just like to stir the waters a bit, you know, might like to rock the apple cart. These are other fun phrases that I’m bringing up right now. I don’t know where they’re coming from, to be honest with you just coming outta my crack today because these phrases just pop up and it shows that I’ve heard a lot of things in my life too, like from generations beyond me, which are pretty cool. Now these individuals that are always looking for trouble, we could always plug in a different word for that word trouble. Right. Because I’m sure you think it’s like, oh, it, it, well, that person always seems to have a bad relationship or they’re always with a bad guy or they’re always with just a horrible woman. 

Every time they find something, they just can’t find the right guy. Well, maybe they’re looking for a tumultuous relationship, you know? So that person isn’t always looking for trouble. They’re looking for a bad relationship or they’re this person, man, they can’t hold a job. Right. They’re always looking to get fired. You know, these are thought patterns as you see actions play out, when you observe an individual, anybody who just seems to be repeating the same exact scenario every single week, every single month, every single year. And you’re like, man, when are they gonna break this pattern? Especially if it’s somebody that you care about, right? Or this could be you, if you just think, man, I can’t find the right job. I, I, I can’t hold a job or I wish there were some good guys out there. I’ve heard that one before. Right man. 

Or, or I wish there was just a woman that I could find that was so caring. Why are all the women horrible? I’ve heard that before too. You know? And it’s like, because you start thinking these thoughts, you actually train your brain in a negative way to go looking for these things. Now this could be based off of a trauma. It could be based on just a bad experience that you had one time. And that formulated what you think, all the experiences in that situation are going to be from that point on. Or you might have experienced it a couple of times. Maybe you just had some bad luck and you had something happen to you more than once now. You’re thinking that’s the same thing over and over and over again. Right? Well, today we’re gonna start to give you some, some exceptions on how to break free of this because I’m, I’m going to tell you that most of the time, that is not the way that it is. 

You’ve just created this story and, and you’re playing this movie in your mind. It’s like, oh, I’ve seen the ending already. This is just the sequel. Oh, Hey, you know what, here’s a trilogy gonna get fired from this job or this dude’s gonna leave me or she’s gonna just be horribly mean to me, that’s just how it is. That’s not how it is. Did you hear me? That’s not how it is. That’s how you think it is. And what you look for is what you find. Let’s try to break this because I don’t know if you do this, but this is something that I do. It’s not consistent, but it’s a, I’m generally a positive person anyways, because this took a while for me to get here. I did this years ago to where it was every single night, I would write down something that I was thankful for. 

You know, now they call him like ex you know, practicing gratitude, right? That’s the nice, cool catch phrase, right back that, you know, five, six years ago, I was just like, I’m just gonna write things down. I’m thankful for that. And I would write ’em in a journal. I would take notes on my phone, whatever works and begin to just write down the things that I’m thankful for. And you know what this did for me, because this actually brought me out of a bad point in my life where I almost died. I’ve talked about my health issue before, you know, when it was years ago when I almost died, but maybe not so much about my mindset on how I got out of this, right? Because I was in a bad state, very anxious, very, very depressed, you know, because very wide, I mean, to the point where I would have like this brain Z, because of these thoughts, eight for eight months straight, and man, this is it. 

I’m gonna die. Nobody can figure out what’s wrong with me. And you know what? I almost made it happen, I know that, right. But then I was brought through that life was saved by an amazing surgeon. And then after that I started figuring out, all right, well cool. That broke the pattern for me actually almost dying broke the pattern of these thoughts for me. I don’t want you to go through the same thing cuz it sucked. It really sucks. So what I want for you is to give you ways to start pulling yourself up out of this hole. You’ve dug for yourself mentally to where you’re always going to look for bad things because of some experiences you’ve had or maybe some experience that other people have told you that you had. This one sucks. When people tell you things based on their own traumas and be like, this is the way it is in life. Well, maybe that’s the way it was for them, but you are not them. It can be totally different from you. Maybe just maybe you have a different purpose in life than that individual. Or maybe just, maybe you actually could experience some good things. 

I know that you can, I’m gonna show you how today. When I started being thankful for these things, you know, I would meditate, right? And meditation for me actually comes when I work out, I never really put intention into working out before, but I found that that was a time where I could actually quiet my brain. And uh, I couldn’t even do 10 pushups coming out of this bad health thing that I had. But what it did is it created a space for me. It created this, this block in my day where I had nothing to do, but get my body right. Coming out of this bad illness that I had and also just processing my thoughts. So it’s like, what do I wanna think of? That’s what I started thinking to myself, right? Because what you look for is what you find. 

So I’m like, what do I wanna look for? What did I did with this? And this is the key, and this is how you are going to break through whatever it is that you think is stupid in your life. That’s always gonna be the same stupidness every single day, every single month, every single year. It might not be stupid. If you look for things that aren’t stupid, did you hear that your life might not be stupid? If you look for things to fill your life that are not stupid, this is how you do it. Just like this. You know, I focused on just thinking one thing, that’s it, just one thing. That’s the easiest place. That’s hard. One thing, some kind of outcome. Like the end result for me, it was like, I wanna be fit. I don’t ever want to go through that again. 

I wanna be fit. I want to build enough muscle mass in my body to where I feel good. And I look good. That was the outcome for me. And I actually visualized myself and no joke. I just took this photo like three days ago in a gym, in a hotel that I was traveling in because I’m looking at myself in the mirror and I don’t know where I found this shirt. It was a shirt that was buried. It was an Under Armour shirt. It was a tight size, medium. I wear everything else. Right. But this was a fitted medium shirt and oh my God, did it accentuate all the good things about my shape. I was looking in the mirror. I’m like, holy moly. And then I recalled this vision that I had. It’s like, this is the outcome. This is what I want. 

It was the one single thought that continued to fuel these things. Right? And then I kept thinking deeper and deeper and deeper about what it would look like when I started this entire journey that created intention. If you’re starting a business right now, if you, if you’re looking to maybe bring a new service to market or increase revenue, right? Think of that outcome. Just one thing right now, just think of that one thing and then keep thinking about it. But first you have to create this space for me, it’s working out. That’s what created this space for me. You have to create this space to continually train your brain because your thoughts will help. You see what you wanna see in your life. It trains your brain to then almost kind of trick it in a way to start to influence your actions. And that’s how these things happen. That’s the intention.

So think about the thoughts one time, the outcome, and then keep thinking about them in that space that you created for yourself. Think about them over and over and over again for me, if it’s four to five times a week working out, I’ll keep thinking about that while I’m working out over and over and over again about what it actually looks like. 

Now you’re training your brain and that’s going to influence your actions and everyone that’s called intention. Now, you know that what you look for is what you’re going to find. So whatever you wanna look for, start thinking about that right now, that outcome and go ALL IN.