About the Episode:
Are the people around you just on pause? Not really going anywhere? You need to watch out for who you’re hanging out with, who will help you grow. Who will help you unleash the best version of yourself?
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- It takes time for growth
- You will mess up
- It is your choice for the emotions you feel
- Audit the people around you
Hey, what’s shakin’!? Hey, I’m Rick Jordan. Today, we’re going all in. Do you know someone that you’re just like, man, that person is always so positive, or Geez, that person is always just horrible to be around because they’re always talking as if the world is ending? And I get the former a lot of times when people are around me like, man, you’re just such a positive person. And it’s like, no matter what happens, it’s like, you’re always looking for the good in whatever situation, you know, even if that good is that that bad situation is ending, it’s like, you’re still grateful, Rick for that. For that now it’s time for something new. And that’s very, very true of me. And I need to, I’m gonna be very open with everybody today, there was a time period of my life where that wasn’t the case. And you might even think about yourself, where you’re like, Geez, why am I just so angry all the time? Or while? Why can’t I just like, bring myself up out of this pit? Or why am I just scared of all these bad things that could happen all the time? And I want to bring you some encouragement today and some things on how to do this. Because this is something that I’ve had to train my brain and train my emotions over the course of many, many years to get to a point where I can process these things. And this is part of what emotional growth, emotional maturity, and just growth in general with yourself is all about. And this was one of the reasons why it’s difficult for me to be around individuals, as soon it’s not so much that the ones that are not aware of what’s going on.
But as soon as they become aware of the way that they’re reacting, or the way that they’re behaving. It’s like as soon as that point happens because this has been something with me, it’s like you now have no excuse. But to change your behavior. Because if you don’t, you’re just saying you’re accepting the way that you are, even though you don’t like the way that you are. Even though the way that you are affecting people around you in a negative way, even though you’re treating people poorly, even though you can’t establish good relationships, even though you can’t keep a job. As soon as you become aware of something. And it registers to where you have this ability to be like, Yes, I see that I am that way, at that point in time, then it’s your responsibility to change and change immediately to grow and grow immediately. It takes time for that growth to actually come to a place where it’s consistent, you’re gonna mess up. Absolutely you are. But here’s the real truth about all of this. So if you’re thinking that you’re an angry person, or if you’re thinking that you’re a negative person, or you know those negative people that will be like, Oh, I’m just a realist, yes, screw that crap, right? That a realist is just a negative person in disguise. If they say that, you know, you can look at something and be like, Oh, that’s just fact. But you know, it might be a fact. But still, the outcome and the direction that you take those facts can be a positive way, whether it’s actually taking action to change what’s going on, or even removing yourself from that environment, or that situation can be a positive thing.
You always have choices, to feel the emotions that you have to train yourself to feel in a certain way about things. Now, that doesn’t mean that you won’t ever feel angry that you won’t ever have bad days, or that you won’t ever feel sad or mad. Because the seeds of all emotions, positive and negative, exist within us at all times. It’s just certain situations can draw those out of us. And certain people can even draw those out of us. And that’s why it’s important to understand who you’re around. And this is, this is the first step. This is the absolute first step. And this is how I started to train myself. The absolute first step is to audit the people that are around you start to take inventory and start to see who you’re spending your time with. If you’re spending time with people who are just like in the matrix, so to speak, just status quo and happy with doing the same thing every day, no real growth, just counting on their raise every single year is that you that’s listening to this right now. Just counting on their 4% 5% whatever cost of living increase, you know, that’s not real growth that’s doing the same thing every year. If that’s not you, and you don’t want to be that, stop hanging around with people who are okay with that. And it’s fine if that’s what they want, it is completely fine because it could be that’s what makes them happy.
They might express growth in other areas of their life. But if you are somebody who wants to grow professionally, or in business, or advance things in life and you have these goals that require you to be at a higher Place of achievement or PE, or whenever the people that you’re hanging around need to change, you have to get in with people who have those like-minded ideas because otherwise, you’re just gonna start to get frustrated. And this is where that anger crops up to where you’re just going to consistently go in day in and day out to your job. Or if you have your own business, you’re an entrepreneur day in and day out, and you never seem to make any progress. You have to take an honest look at what’s around you in your life and do that inventory. And that audits. If that’s relationships, if that’s people, if that’s things you’re doing, right, maybe it’s, maybe you’re spending a lot of money on alcohol, or something else like that, or weed, whatever, take a look at everything in your life, because you have to audit all these things. Because otherwise, you will become angry, because anger is actually very much like a surface-level emotion. Most people experience anger as a surface-level emotion, there’s always something that comes before anger. And usually, it’s something like sadness.
Usually, it’s something like rejection. Somebody just got hit hard with that, man, I just felt it, as I said that to you will continue to get angry. If you continue to do things that do not help you grow and move forward into what you want to do, you will be an angry person. But you know what? The seeds of all the positive emotions just like the negative emotion exist inside of you too. In order to start to draw those out, you have to start to water those seeds, which means getting around the right people, which means taking action, on things that will get you out of that angry mode that you’re in, that requires change. And that requires risk. And that requires doing things that you are scared to do. Because the only way you’re going to know is actually when you go through it, to begin with, you cannot predict the future. But what you do know and you can think back at a time right now you can close your eyes and think back at a time right now when you felt good, where you were happy where you were laughing, where you were, and had an amazing outlet thinking man, the next five years of my life are going to be incredible. Go back to that and anchor on that feeling. Because you know what it feels like you might have to go all the way back to your childhood, in order to feel that in your memories.
Those amazing emotions still exist within you. What you’re choosing right now is to be angry, you’re choosing to be sad, you’re choosing to have a poor outlook and thinking you know, there’s nothing good that’s going to happen. And even when things are going great, you’re still going to have those seeds of those negative emotions that are in you negative emotions can actually be your strength. When you become aware, as I was talking about just a little bit ago, when you become aware, those negative emotions will actually be the things that will drive you. So don’t think that they’re all bad. They’re bad only when you allow yourself to continue feeling that way and you change nothing. That’s the only way the negative emotions are actually bad for you. Otherwise, when you are aware and you choose not this anymore. Those emotions through those, as they call them, negative emotions will actually be the things that will drive you and propel you forward, to make the change to create the growth to make and create the environment that you want to pursue your dreams. Those negative emotions can be the very things that propel you like freaking rocket fuel, to get what you want in life, to put you all the way into positive emotions day in and day out every single day, every single year, every single decade of your life from this point on. Negative emotions are only bad for you when you change nothing. Let those be the things that actually drive you to what you want in your life.
Go ALL IN.