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There are things that we all do that have been normalized, that everyone seems to do, and they seem like great things to do. Great things to help day-to-day. But things can seem great but really are counterproductive.
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- Everyone wants advice
- Never take advice from people who aren’t in authority
- Don’t always plan everything
- Don’t set up everything for perfection
- Just do it now
What’s shakin’? Hey, I’m Rick Jordan today, we’re going all in.
For some things that we all do when it comes to trying to move things forward. And we think that we’re on the right track with it with thinking these things, but they’re actually doing more damage than they’re doing good for us. And these are ways that if you want to call it self-sabotage, or whatever else, it’s like things that we think will work well because it sounds logical. These three things sound logical when we actually try to put them into practice, but it’s actually something that’s not very healthy for us. And I’m gonna give you these three things today because they might just be holding you back from being able to move forward with everything you’ve ever wanted.
All right, everybody wants to give advice, and everybody thinks that advice is great. You know what? There’s even scripture that says, you know, wisdom isn’t a multitude of counselors, and I fully believe in all of that, heck, that’s why I have a board on my company. That’s why I have coaches, you know, I wouldn’t even be where I’m at today without the coaches and mentors that I’ve had along the way. So I always constantly submit myself to get advice from other people. But I’m very strategic about that. And there’s been times in the past when I haven’t been as strategic and I thought that it was the right person to ask for the advice. But that person had absolutely no insight whatsoever. That was valuable. But yet, they said a lot of words, right? And really, they were just giving me an opinion and pulling stuff out of thin air, because it sounded good to them. Because one of the biggest things that could be holding you back right now is taking advice from people who haven’t been where you want to go, or who have no authority. We’ve all heard that one before, probably, where it’s like, Hey, don’t take advice from people who haven’t been there, right? But there’s, there’s another thing to add on to that or who have no authority. Right? There are certain things because people might not have to go there, but they could have studied a lot about it.
Now there’s nothing to me that beats experience in a situation absolutely nothing. At the same time, you can have somebody who knows a lot about something just because they’ve consumed a lot of information, but then take it with a grain of salt, because they should always preface it with this is what I’ve learned from consumption of knowledge. This is what I’ve learned from observation of others. This is what I’ve learned from being able to have empirical data, which means being an onlooker to something, a witness to something. So that’s maybe one of the potential caveats to this, that you should never take advice from people who haven’t been where you want to go, or who have no authority. And let’s be real about this for a second. Trigger alert. Okay. You wouldn’t want to take health tips from someone who’s fat? Oh, no, Rick said the effort, you know, when I was fat too, okay, let’s just call it what it is.
Okay, and I would not have been the person that you would want to take health tips from meaning driving around in the geek mobiel, eating at McDonald’s, or getting fast food all the time, or not cooking healthy things and just eating carbs, carb, carb, not much focus on protein, not much movement in my life, no exercise whatsoever, I would not have been the one to give you health tips. Because what you see in front of you, is actually probably the truth, right? Because that’s reality. And that’s something that you’re thinking, but when it’s right in front of your face, and you see somebody who’s right there, that’s carrying a lot of extra weight. They’re not the person to ask health tips from although you know what blows my mind is that a lot of times they’ll give it right to like, oh, well, I’m doing this right now. I think I’m gonna lose this weight. You know what I lost 10 pounds over the past eight years, you know, I’m doing good. Or somebody who just says, You know what, I know what to do. And this is what you should do when they’re not doing it themselves. And you can clearly see that you wouldn’t go to a dentist who has yellow teeth, would you?
That was always the thing for me. I think that dentists should have the most freaking perfect teeth in the world. Not to say they wouldn’t have worked on them. Right, but teeth in themselves in society. Having good teeth is like a sign of health. I’ve seen doctors not even just dentists, but doctors who have bad teeth. It’s like, where is your attention on your own health? How am I going to take advice from you, or diagnosis from you? When you got your own crap, you’re not paying attention to look at you. You sit down in the chair and then the dentist’s is over you and they’ve got the worst breath that you’ve ever frickin smelled. You wouldn’t take that advice from that person, would you?
No, of course not. So why would you do it when it comes to your business or your life choices? Ask yourself that. Why would you take advice from those kinds of people when it comes to business or life choices? People who haven’t been there There are people who have no authority. Stop. Now, find the right mentors. Find the right people, because anybody can only take you as far as they’ve been themselves and have a story. Alright, the second thing that seems logical, but it’s actually pretty counterintuitive, is making sure that everything is ready to go all set right now, or we could call this perfectionism, right or having all your ducks in a row, whatever it is, what you actually think is being smart. And making things perfect. Trigger alert is actually a fear of failure in disguise. You try to make things perfect.
So that you can win you can achieve the outcome is actually a fear of failure in disguise. Because you’re thinking that it has to be a certain way, that way, you have a shore outcome that you want. There’s nothing wrong with the strategy. There’s nothing wrong with throwing some things out there. But this is the scenario where you could literally just be stuck in this place forever. And it could take you so long to try to do something because you want things just so really, that’s a fear of failure. And it’s a lack of trust in yourself. Those are the things that are going to keep you back because fear of failure is paralyzing you, and tricking your brain into thinking it just needs to be better before dot dot dot. But in reality, you are learning nothing from having a really perfect plan. The only way you really learn things is actually by diving into those things and having to adapt when something doesn’t go your way. Or when there’s something that you couldn’t possibly anticipate, no matter how really perfect of a plan you have. You learn nothing from perfectionism.
When you do it, you actually learn things. Time keeps ticking and ticking away. So you might as well freaking start taking action and start learning. Perfectionism is slowing you down. And it’s just a fear of failure in disguise.
The last thing that actually seems kind of logical, right, and you’ve probably even heard this advice going back to people that discussion comes from pastors a lot, it really does, right? And it comes back from like scripture, and it’s like, oh, wait on God. I’ve heard that because I grew up in the church and all that stuff, right? And it’s like, just wait on God, well, then people end up waiting freaking forever, right? Because we’re looking for some kind of sign or something like that when actually, the sign might just be that you’re thinking about it. For real. This is like right in your face, the sign could just be that you’re thinking about it. That could be your sign to actually do something about it right now. Because waiting for the right time. Just freaking do it. Now. You’re going to miss out. You should go back and listen to a previous episode because you are going to miss out by waiting.
There’s always opportunity an opportunity has an expiration date. Opportunity has time limits. If you have something that you’re looking at right now that you want to achieve, and it’s right there in front of you. And you need to make a choice that has an expiration date on it. Just freakin do it. I know that it doesn’t seem like the right time. Okay right now. But it’s actually never the right time. Did you hear me on that? It’s never the right time. There will always be something happening somewhat and if it’s never the right time you ready for this? If it’s never the right time, that actually means it’s always the right time. Okay, so just jump up off your seat and get to it because the opportunity has an expiration date. And all those what-ifs mean that it’s never the right time. But that really means that it’s actually the right time. Right now.
Go ALL IN.